Free How to Light Her Fire! by Madame X Page A

Women Avoid Sex?
     
    The biggest compliant I’ve heard from men is that their lady never wants sex and only gives in after endless begging and pleading. The men say they have the bad luck to have a frigid mate.
     
    Let me clue you in; most women aren’t frigid, and I bet I’d be safe to bet your lady isn’t either. She just doesn’t want sex with you.
     
    Why?
     
    It could be a hundred reasons, and we’ll explore the most relevant. But remember this: most of the time women make love first with their emotions . Seldom do they simply have sex, although when the circumstances are right, they’ve been known to happily engage in spontaneous hot sex.
     
    But unlike men, most women are turned on—or off—by how their men treat them—and not only in the bedroom.
     
    Touchy, Feely
     
    For women, the arousal, or their resistance, begins long before the lights go out, in how their mates look at them during the day, at the way they talk to each other, and, a biggy, one you’d better remember, in the way they touch.
     
    One of the biggest complaints I’ve heard from women is their mate doesn’t touch them unless it’s to grab them when ready for sex. Women want to be touched, caressed. As one lady told me, “I’ve been married for six years, yet my skin feels starved.”
     
    Be attentive. Your lady has receptors all over her skin that can’t be measured, but if you’re attentive, you’ll learn. Caress her, kiss her, and enfold her into your arms. Hold and stroke her back. If there’s no time for an embrace and the kiss is brief, then delicately, just above a whisper, brush your fingertips over her cheek and down her jaw line. Lightly run your fingertips down her arms. As in every other technique, learn to watch her reaction. If she closes her eyes and learns toward you, you know she’s affected—and receptive for more.
     
    If you haven’t been attentive in ways other than for sex, she won’t respond no matter what you do.
     
    On my first date with my husband, he took me to dinner. He was a take-charge type of man and I loved it. He’d asked me what I liked to eat and made reservations at a restaurant that served what I liked. I was impressed. He was also a gentleman after the date and I was eager to go out with him again.
     
    Our second date was the most erotic experience I’d ever had, and it wasn’t during sex. It was in public, at the movies, and he simply held my hand. He didn’t grope me or do anything but hold my hand during the movie. But it was the way he held my hand that made me more aware of him than the exciting movie on the screen.
     
    How did he hold my hand? He didn’t tongue it or do anything crass. He simply and casually, stroked it lightly, gently, with his other hand, stoking the knuckles and running his fingertips down my fingers. He wasn’t overt; he didn’t watch me. That’s what added to the pleasure. We both kept our eyes on the screen, but I was aware of every breath he took. Occasionally he’d bring my hand to his mouth and ever so gently, sucked. The sensations zinged all the way to my genitals, and if I hadn’t been a lady, I would’ve climbed onto his lap and dug out his penis right in the theater. As it was, I leaned over and whispered an invitation to leave and head for my place.
     
    So simple, so easy for him and for you. Stroke your lady, hold her. Let her know it pleases you to touch her and she’ll please you.
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
    Consideration
     
    Long before the lights go out, women are either getting turned on - or off - by how their mate looks at them, talks to them, and treats them during a typical day. If you’ve barked at her or expected her to work at a job and come home to prepare dinner alone, clean up afterward and get the kids ready for bed while you’re on the computer or watching tv, be prepared for a hissing cobra when you reach for her in bed. Women have almost photographic memories when it comes to their mates. They