inkâbelonged to me.
âCan you draw quietly, so I can concentrate?â
âOkay, Mommy.â
âThanks, Sweetheart.â
Typing, typing, typing.
âWhat are you writing?â
âA book.â
âWhatâs it called?â
She sighed audibly, which meant she was annoyed that I interrupted her.
âWhatâs your book called?â
â âMy PhD Dissertation.â â
Tappitty, tappitty, tappity.
âThatâs a silly name,â I giggled. âWhat does âPea Aichdy Dish of Tashinâ mean?â
She kept working, didnât answer, so I picked up a crayon and drew a picture on the back of a page covered with her words, some scribbled over with ballpoint pen, a mosaic of words and arrows.
Mom used so many big words, I was accustomed to not knowing what she meant. I sat beside her, drawing and drawing, Mommy typing and typing. She paused.
âWhat are you drawing?â
âA picture of you, Mommy.â
âI love it!â
TWO
I love that Eliana still likes holding hands when we walk to school. Julia had given it up by this age.
âMom, why canât I walk to school by myself?â
âBecause youâre too young.â
âIâm in fourth grade, Iâm not a baby!â She withdraws her hand. âSome kids in my class already walk to school alone. When can I walk to school on my own?â
âUm . . .â
Whatâs the point in letting her walk to school alone now, when in one month sheâll have surgery and then she wonât be able to walk to school at all, with or without me? Whatâs the point of giving her more independence now, only to take it away from her?
And
I donât think sheâs ready.
âAt the end of fifth grade. Thatâs when Julia was allowed to walk to school alone.â
âOkay.â She takes my hand again, and skips the rest of the way to school. I veer off eagerly, to walk through the park and to my session.
Walking home from first grade, I thought about God, and wondered whether our God was the same as the God that Kevin and Sally believed in. How could it be the same God, since Sally said that when they died theyâd be angels in Godâs heaven but we couldnât ever go there, because we were Jewish and the Jews killed Christ, and that was why we couldnât ever be saved. Their heaven sounded comfortable, with good music on harps, but rather snobby and mean. It reminded me of the sailing club Daddy wanted to join, but they wouldnât let him because Jews werenât allowed.
My parents werenât specific on the subject of death and angels and heaven and God, and we only went to synagogue twice a year, on Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, and it was mostly in Hebrew, which I didnât understand. Mom said she didnât believe in an afterlife. Dad said he was agnostic, but he wasnât ruling anything out. Mom said she believed in reincarnation, which sounds pretty cool, like maybe youâd come back in your next life as a lion, which was my favorite animal. But when I pressed her for details, she said she believed that when your body was buried, it helped plants to grow, which sounded boring. Mom and Dad both said it was okay to believe whatever seemed right to you. I hadnât worked out the details (like my dad, I wasnât ruling anything out), but I thought that whatever you believed was true, and that there were many heavens and many Gods, even though everyone said theirs was the only one. Kevin and Sally would probably go to their heaven that had no Jews in it, because they were so certain about it, and Iâd go to the other heaven that lets in Jews. But what if I believed my heaven was for everybody? Then Kevin and Sally would be there, too. Phooey, that meant Kevin would still throw rocks at me in heaven. But maybe they wouldnât even know we were in the same heaven, and then wouldnât I have the last laugh? Just like