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know then was how a year later I would watch that beautiful movie about loss and love with my wonderful new boyfriend, Nick Kroll. I would watch the scene where Joaquin Phoenix reads an apology letter he writes to his ex-wife, and I would cry for all the things behind me and all the things yet ahead. Spike offered to connect me to Marianne, and I gratefully agreed.
    Then he sent me this:
    From: Spike Jonze
    Date: March 11, 2013
    To: Amy Poehler
    Subject: Fwd: Hey from Marianne & Chris
    I didn’t realize the whole situation.
    I’ll leave it in your hands.
    I’m sorry, Amy.
    Being a grown-up is hard.
    Marianne is an awesome woman. I’m sure you guys would get along great if you met in a different situation.
    big hugs
    x
    On March 11, 2013, Leone, Marianne wrote:
    From: Marianne Leone
    Date: March 11, 2013
    To: Spike Jonze
    Subject: Re: Hey from Marianne & Chris
    Yeah, I was furious at the skit she did on SNL and wrote her a letter to tell her. The skit was a gratuitously cruel slap at disability which wasn’t funny in the least. What made it so, so horrible was that she was talking about the Somoza twins and the script I wrote about their lives. It was also the same night Hillary Clinton was on and I knew that Anastasia was watching it with friends, since she was in Texas stumping for Hillary, so I knew she saw herself being parodied in a horrible, unfunny, cruel way. I was doubly insulted for the twins that Poehler never had the class to answer the letter, so, quite frankly, I am glad that it bothered her. (We had our return address on the letter, and, face it, we’re not that hard to find.)
    So, Spike, what I feel now is that I, we don’t need an apology from her, but if she wants to make it up to ANASTASIA, she can contribute to her staying at London School of Economics for another year to get her Master’s in Human Rights. Nothing will stop Anastasia. She will effect change in the world.
    Love always,
    Marianne
    I read Marianne’s e-mail and was devastated. I pictured Anastasia watching the show and seeing me make fun of her. I waited almost a month and sent this.
    From: Amy Poehler
    Date: April 1, 2013
    To: Marianne Leone
    Subject: Truly sorry
    Dear Marianne and Chris,
    I am writing to apologize. This is most likely an example of “too little too late” but I am writing to you to apologize for a Dakota Fanning sketch I did on SNL many years ago. It was a sketch that upset you and Anastasia, and one that moved you to write to me.
    It has always bothered me that I never contacted you both. I regret that. I spoke of this to Spike and he very nicely connected us. I am grateful to him for giving me this opportunity, and appreciate you taking the time to read this.
    I am very sorry for any pain I caused. I apologize for an insensitive portrayal of what was a loving and important project. I am truly sorry for hurting Anastasia in any way.
    I do not think it’s funny to make light of disabilities. This is not the kind of person I am or have ever been. The sketch was not written by me. The mean prop used was not seen by me until live on air. In fact, I had no idea that we were referencing a real film. I assumed it was yet another “adult” project that we would joke about Dakota Fanning working on. These are not excuses. I take responsibility for my negligence in understanding the context of what I was saying, but it’s important for me to tell you these details.
    Anastasia deserves an apology from me. Feel free to pass this along if you feel that is helpful or send me her email if you deem it appropriate. I visited her Indiegogo page. She is an awesome young woman and I have no doubt she will continue to live an amazing life.
    Again, I am sorry. I send my best wishes to you and your family, and my deepest condolences regarding the loss of your son.
    Thank you for reading this.
    Amy
    Rereading it now I notice a few things. I got a little caught up in the facts. I was hoping to defend myself. But it felt really good to