Free Never Apply for a Job Again!: Break the Rules, Cut the Line, Beat the Rest by Darrell Gurney, Ivan Misner Page A

in sight, it seemed impossible, and therefore called upon a “leap of faith.” He had to put his foot out into the cavernous ravine to, supposedly, walk to the other side. It required all of the courage and fortitude he had within him, but he did it… and discovered that there was, in fact, an invisible bridge underneath his feet that simply blended into the cliff itself— unseen, but there nonetheless.

CareerGuy Tip: In your career, the best is yet to come.
    Have you ever had something supposedly “bad” happen to you in life that, in retrospect, you now see as being perfect? Perhaps it was a doorway to another direction you pursued. Maybe it opened you up for something you wouldn’t have been available for otherwise. It may have brought with it a multitude of unexpected benefits you could never have planned for.
    Come on, let’s take just a minute to look…so this isn’t just theoretical. Grab your Career Transformation Insights Journal and write out your answers to just a few simple questions.
    Bad or Good: You Choose
1. What are some turning point “bad” events that have occurred in your life?
Did you ever get fired from a job?
Did your business close down?
Did a relationship end?
Did you lose money on an investment?
What was a “bad” turning point unique to you, if none of these apply?
2. If I were to pay you $1,000 for each possible “good” result that you could say came out of that “bad” occurrence, what could you come up with?
How did you being freed up from that job help you see or hear the next opportunity for you? Could you have seen or heard it when you were so busy in the other role?
How did starting over, after the closing down of your business, give you a new lease on life or offer you a new direction you would not have had if you were still tied to that business?
How did moving beyond that past relationship allow you to see yourself and what you want for yourself better than you had before?
How did the loss of the money bring about more appreciation for your life or new activities that wouldn’t have happened before? What did you gain for the loss?
What potential “good” actually came out of your own uniquely “bad” turning point?
    Even if being laid off was the reason you picked up this book, it might not be a bad thing. I’ve been present at termination notices when the affected persons, after being notified by their manager or HR and then brought to see me, actually waited until the HR person left the room and did a victory dance saying, “ Yes! Yes! Yes! ” They had wanted to be out of that situation for a while, but just hadn’t exercised the courage to do it themselves. But even for those who weren’t necessarily so elated, in talking with them, I would often hear that they had secretly wanted to move on for a while.
    If we look past our immediate, breast-beating victim-hood on certain events in our life, it’s possible to see that things happen for a reason. Perhaps your hidden prayers were actually answered with that layoff? Maybe you were truly feeling the yoke of that business and it was constraining your new desires for self-expression? Possibly it was just time to let that relationship go so that the right person could finally show up…now that you had done your homework on finding out what you didn’t want? And what if you just needed to take life a little more preciously sweet and that lost investment was your wake-up call?
    “Do not judge, and you will never be mistaken.” ~Jean Jaques Rousseau
    It really all comes down to what you’re going to say about whatever happened. Shakespeare said, “There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” As hard as it may seem, if I really did give you that $1,000 per “good” reason, I guarantee you’d come up with some. And often, it really isn’t hard at all…if you just think differently.
    If you can see that there are bad events in your life that can be retroactively seen as good, know that you