hadnât asked my aunt: âWhat did she mean when she talked about the sacrifices she made? What sacrifices?â
âGosh, Iâve no idea,â he says.
âYou think itâs because she never got married and had kids?â
âBut she has been married.â
âWhat?â I fall forward in surprise, till my seat belt snaps me back.
âSheâs been married,â he says again, louder this time.
âI heard you. I just donât believe you.â
âItâs true.â
âThen how come I didnât know about it?â
âIt was a long time ago. Before you were born.â
I scowl at him. âWhy didnât you ever tell me?â
âI never think about it, so it never occurred to me. It really was such a long time ago,â my father says apologetically. Then he tells me what he can remember (Dad jokes: âMy memory key is the same kind the dinosaurs usedâ).
After law school, Aunt Austin got a job as a speechwriter for the governor. While working there, she met a young man named Jonnie. They had much in common: similar values and beliefs, similar lifestyles, and many of the same friends. They fell in love. Got married. But as time passed, Jonnie became disillusioned with the political system while my aunt rose through its ranks. They began fighting and eventually decided to separate.
âYou think she regrets it?â I ask.
âYour aunt is a mystery to me.â Dad pulls into our driveway and shuts off the engine. We sit in silence for a moment. Then he clears his throat.
âLora, how about we go to a movie tonight? Itâs been so long since weâve been to the movies, and soon youâll be gone, leaving your poor old father all alone,â he says. His tone is jolly, but it makes me feel no less bad.
âIâm sorry,â I say. âI wish I could, but I have plans with a friend.â
âWhich friend?â
âBesides, Iâm not leaving you all alone. Campus is so close and youâre there all the time. Weâll see each other every day,âI say. When I told my father I wanted to live in the dorms and not at home, he accepted it as though he expected it. However, that didnât keep me from worrying I was abandoning him. That same worry pinches me now.
Dad shrugs. âYes, but who is this friend you have plans with tonight?â
âYou donât know him.â I open my car door and get out.
â Him? So itâs a date?â He opens his car door and gets out.
âItâs not. I donât know. Maybe. Kind of.â
âYes, indeed, itâs a date,â he says, chuckling. âDo we need to have the talk ?â
âNo! Please, no!â I cover my ears and rush up to the house. When I was thirteen, my father attempted to have the talk with me. I hadnât realized what was happeningâI was only half listening because I thought he was philosophizing about humanity or somethingâuntil he mumbled the words âsafe sex.â Then I looked up and saw his face was red, and my face started turning that same red. I interrupted to say they taught us this in school so he could stop right there. Nonetheless, he continued.
Iâve managed to forget most of that conversation, and Iâd prefer it to stay forgotten, so I brace myself against the memory like I did before, at the park. And it works like it did beforeâthe memory remains distant.
My father is not so compliant.
âWhen two people are in love,â he says as he unlocks the front door.
âNo! Stop it! Stop it!â I shout as I run inside, laughing, and he chases after me, talking. Itâs moments like these I realize that despite it all, we did okay.
Dad and I, weâre okay.
8.
WHEN I GET TO THE COFFEE SHOP FOR MY MAYBE-KIND-OF DATE, Iâm all wriggly nerves in my carefully selected, now regretted outfitâwhy did I ever think this green shirt was flattering? Plus