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want to scare him off by staring. Practice eye control. Give him a nice gaze and genuine smile for, let’s say, no more than three seconds—long enough to let him know you’re interested—and then look away. Follow up with occasional peekaboo glances to keep him on the hook and eventually reel him in,” Joey suggested while demonstrating her technique.
    â€œAnother great eye smile is to catch his gaze, hold it for a second, and then let your eyes inspect his face and body for a few seconds. This lets him know you like what you see, which may be all the encouragement he needs to pursue you.
    â€œOnce you have captured his attention with your smile and have him locked into your gaze, let your eyes communicate all those things that you’d love to say but feel too silly or forward verbalizing. Let your glance dip to his lips and then back to his eyes as you mentally tell him how delicious his mouth is. Your facial expressions will translate the messages in your head. Drown him in unspoken compliments and he will start living to spend time in your gaze.
    â€œ SELL TIP : Your eyes and smile must work together. If one is smiling without the other, you’ll appear bored and disingenuous.
    â€œ EXERCISE : Make eye play part of your morning routine. As you’re getting ready, practice flirting with yourself. Look in the mirror and hold your own gaze. Practice complimenting yourself through eye talk. Smile and witness your mesmerizing effect. Keep practicing until flirting and smiling with your eyes becomes second nature.
    â€œNext you must LISTEN . Your ability to listen effectively is the secret to coming off completely fascinating to men. The more you listen and ask questions, the more attractive, mysterious, and intriguing you become. Asking for more details proves you have been paying attention, and sends the message that you find him interesting.
    â€œ SELL TIP : Don’t think too hard about what you’re going to say—just really listen to what he is saying and respond naturally.
    â€œAnd when she’s not listening or talking, a WMS should be LAUGHING . Laughter and humor are also powerful armaments in your seductive artillery. It’s almost impossible to flirt successfully and enjoyably without them. So don’t be afraid of a little playful teasing.
    â€œBut remember, sarcasm and wit walk a very fine line. If telling jokes aren’t your forte, don’t. Let him do the telling.”
    â€œWhat if his jokes aren’t funny?”
    â€œAlways let truth be your guide. Your best bet is to react naturally and sensibly. It’s all in your delivery. A gentle, lighthearted grimace can be the bridge between a bad joke and an authentic shared laugh. And sometimes it’s almost better if the joke does bomb, particularly if you can gracefully pull him out of a seemingly awkward situation. Repeating what I mentioned earlier, flirting is a benevolent act. It’s about making a man feel good about being a man.
    â€œ SELL TIP : Stay away from giggling. Giggling translates to anxiety, and you are a cool, collected weapon of mass seduction, not an eighth-grader on her first date.
    â€œNow let’s quickly go over a list of three things you should definitely avoid.
    â€œ DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY : The most successful flirts are those who enjoy it and can flirt without expecting anything to come of it. Leave the ‘must score’ attitude at home or you risk looking desperate. Practice charming men you aren’t interested in, and soon you’ll be able to flirt with the one you adore and still seem casual.
    â€œ FLIRT, DON’T TEASE : There is a difference between innocent flirting and a full-court come-on. Avoid overtly sexual talk or touching. Be a little mysterious—show your interest by being friendly, but don’t offer more than you intend to give. Consider this when you are choosing your attire for the evening. Suggestive