head to look into my eyes. I nodded, and he began.
âI met her in 1951, when I was teaching at a yeshiva in Brooklyn. She was such a beautyâlong brown hair and the most delicate hands, but eyes so sad and far away,â he said. âBut after all they had seen . . .â
Sophie had arrived in America only a few years before, the sole member of her extended family to survive the Holocaust. After all the indignities and offenses she had witnessed during the war, she had to suffer still more in peacetime: She couldnât go home to her village in Poland and instead had to enjoy her so-called freedom in a displaced persons camp in Germany. It was there, in the camp, that she befriended an American soldier, a medic, a Jew who spoke to her in Yiddish. Although she was a beautiful young woman, almost twenty at the time, and the soldier was only seven or eight years older and as handsome as all kind, healthy American soldiers must have seemed, their connection was not romantic.
âThey were like brother and sister,â Rabbi Zuckerman explained. âThey would talk in Yiddish, but he also began to teach her English words. She would stay near him during the day, watching him work, and keeping up to date on the news of the world. New people arrived at the camp, and others left for Palestine or America, but Sophie had nowhere to go.â
When it was time for the soldier to end his tour of duty and return stateside, he made arrangements with a Jewish aid agency to bring Sophie to America. The soldierâs family took her in as one of their own, essentially adopting her and giving her a whole new set of brothers and sisters and parents, and the soldier set her up to train as a nurseâs aide.
âShe was working in the clinic at the girlsâ school across the street from my yeshiva, when I first saw her,â the rabbi recalled. âI had spent years at that yeshiva, teaching boys prayers and Torah lessons, and studying with the other rabbis in the evenings. But once I saw Sophie, I couldnât think about anything else. She was my bashert. â
âYour what?â I asked.
âMy bashert, â he repeated. âThe one I was destined to meet, to share my life with.â
âYou really believe that?â This came out sounding sharper than Iâd intended, and the rabbi cocked his head at me, stung.
âI do,â he said. âYouâll see. Youâll meet the right girl one day.â
âI doubt it,â I said, leaving it at that.
âWe are all destined to have someone special come into our lives, Benji,â he said gently but with conviction, like a teacher explaining something utterly simple to a particularly dim student. âEven you.â
CHAPTER 4
T he rabbiâs words stayed with me for days. Was there really someone I was destined to meet?
Obviously, I hadnât met my bashert yet. Or maybe I had met him, but didnât even know it. Maybe Iâd already dated him but had cast him aside for some ridiculous reason: he bit his fingernails, he wore the wrong shoes, he didnât like The Kids in the Hall. Maybe Iâd blown my only chance.
Would I know my bashert if I saw him? Would I recognize him?
I sat at my desk on Saturday morning, scanning the photos of a dozen different models the photographer had suggested to be the devil in the Paradise ad. I wasnât thrilled to be at my office on a weekend, but the bar manager seemed serious about deadlines, and I wanted to impress himâI needed the job. Besides, looking at photos of hot guys wasnât such a bad way to spend a Saturday morning.
As I flipped through the pictures, I searched for my bashert. Was this himâthe curly-haired boy with the dimpled chin and perfect eyebrows? Or this one, a daddy type with a trim goatee and a shaved head? Or the blond one with the blue eyes? Iâd always had a thing for blonds; was this because my bashert was blond, or because he