because it was demanded of you.â
They veered right into youâve-got-to-be-kidding-me territory. âDid you read that article in the Big Book of Racial Stereotypes?â
Katie looked stumped. âIs there such a thing?â
A rumbling started low and deep inside him. âUnfortunately most people think this stuff without any help.â
âWait, are you upset about what I said?â
âYouâre picking up on that, are you?â He had to take three deep breaths to keep from exploding.
âItâs not like I asked you to do a math problem for me.â
From anyone else, in any other tone, and he would have launched into a lecture. Yelled and then written them off. âIâm not even sure I know what to say to that.â
âI was trying to make a point.â
He reached over and held one of her hands in his. âI think youâre confused on a few things.â
âLike?â
âFirst, Iâm a Japanese American. I was born in Hawaii, just like my mother. My dad moved here as a kid. Iâd show you my passport, but youâll just have to trust me on the citizenship thing.â When she started to speak, he gave her palm a squeeze. He needed to talk and he feared what she might say. âSecond, all Asian people are not the same.â
Her mouth dropped open, leaving her stammering. âThatâs not what I meant.â
He knew that on one level. It was the only reason he was sitting there and not out the door. âBut this is the most important point, so I really want you to hear me.â
âOkay.â
He waited until an anxious hush fell over the room. âI am a grown man.â
âNo kidding.â
He traced his thumb over the back of her hands to remind her of what he could do with his fingers. âAn adult.â
âI get that. Trust me.â
âThen you should know my parents donât pick my dates. They donât get a say.â
She looked all around the room, everywhere except him. âDid they like Deana Armstrong?â
The question came like a punch. For months the mention of his exâs name would send him into a downward spiral of anger and frustration. This time the reaction came from a different direction. The sound of Deanaâs name on Katieâs lips rubbed him wrong. Made him antsy and uncomfortable. He didnât want Deana intruding here. Not now.
âThey seemed to,â he said, wanting to shrug this off but figuring there was no reason to lie.
âDid they want you to marry her?â
Much more of this uncomfortable questioning and heâd have to stand up and start pacing. âI donât know. Donât really care either since itâs a moot point.â
Katieâs head fell to the side and her eyes narrowed in question. âOh, come on.â
âThey were too busy arranging my marriage to a young virgin from a small fishing village outside of Tokyo.â When Katie just stared at him, he blew out a long exhale. âThat was a joke.â
âI knew that.â
âNo, you didnât.â
âI didnât know youâd be so touchy about this subject.â
And here heâd thought he was showing remarkable restraint. âRacial stereotypes get old fast.â
âI didnât realize I was even using them.â
From the confusion on her face, he knew she was telling the truth. She repeated the stuff she picked up.
He rarely invested time setting people straight on their misconceptions about his background. For her, he made an exception. He needed her to understand the reality. âMy parents are normal people and just like any other set of parents. Dad is an accountant. Mom is a secretaryâand thatâs her word, not mine. They want me to succeed, but thatâs more a matter of not wanting to financially support their adult son while he lives in the guest room and tries to get his act together than a statement about my