less than a magic trick to me. How can you ignore such gigantic, in Momâs case, lapses in judgment, strength, maternal instinct? How can you discard the self-obsession of her ilk? She went to fancy schools and owned horses and had sports cars given to her at sixteen, and we were supposed to feel bad that that was all over and had been replaced by, letâs face it, us. Her sister, our aunt Ruth, was living her life in California and she wasnât turning to dust every night at five oâclock. People moved on. Didnât they? From some bullshit idea of what they thought they had coming to them? Somewhere? Somewhere, I was sure, there were people who moved on, people who realized how good they fucking had it and didnât go over the same stupid crap every night.
Mom had taken to occasionally sleeping on an orange cot on the lawn and Katharine would come home for a weekend and simply pull up a chair and bring out some iced tea and the New York Times Sunday crossword, and the two of them would spend the day in the sun drinking iced tea and deliberating over a six-letter word for the opposite of a bad design (W-R-I-G-H-T).
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I WAS FURIOUS AT MOM, and yet I also knew I was an alcoholic like her from the first time I drank. I guzzled tons of champagne at Eleanorâs graduation party and before I went to bed I stole another bottle of it and put it in an old dirty tire that was in the way back of the Torino for my next drinking binge. I woke up and hardly remembered anything of the party. I remembered a champagne fountain and strawberries and drinking with Julia and then I remembered stealing the champagne. I dragged myself out of bed and ran to the car to make sure it was still there. I knew this was a little odd. To wake up in the morning and locate my next drink. I knew it wasnât normal to not remember things when drinking. I knew I was like Mom. This was not good. So how, I thought, how can I get away with it? How can I drink and not turn into Mom? I guess donât get married, donât own a chaise longue, donât smoke (too late), donât be five feet tall, okay good, Iâm already five feet five, donât be rich and spoiled, check, donât cry all the time, no problem, donât dye your hair blond, okay. Most of all donât drink Dewarâs scotch. Now, thatâs easy. Maybe I could do this.
THE TREASURERâS REPORT
T O KNOW MY FATHER is to know âThe Treasurerâs Report,â a monologue written by Robert Benchley of the Algonquin Round Table. It was written in 1922 for a live revue show and later made into a short film starring Benchley. I donât remember a time when he wasnât pushing it on us. Benchley plays an assistant treasurer for a boysâ club who is forced to go on for the absent treasurer at the annual dinner gala and give the financial report of the organization. Heâs the worldâs biggest bumbler but in a very endearing way, giving this dry, dry report. It is a very funny piece but as outdated as my dadâs wooden shoehorns. It felt like old white guy stuff to us. He had gotten us to love old white guy stuff like the Andrews Sisters and Abbott and Costello and the Marx Brothers, but these could pass for entertainment, whereas the Benchley piece was literature, albeit comic, found in a book (we hadnât seen the short film) on our living room bookshelves called The Treasurerâs Report and Other Aspects of Community Singing . It was just the kind of writing that Dad would bring up over and over again for us to âtry.â
As a kid I was absolutely terrified of clichés. My father forbade them in our home. It was like the way other people regarded cursing in their house. If you said, âYou can lead a horse to water, but you canât make him drink,â my father would go ballistic. Mom couldnât control herself, apparently, because she violated this rule about every five