start of the OK! and Hello! wedding industry)âhad another baby, and another, getting thinner year by year.
What is Victoria so famous for? As she herself admits, she canât sing in tuneâand I have no clue how much of her eponymous fashion line she designs herself. I donât know if I admire her or identify with her, or if Iâm just curious. I canât remember a time when she wasnât in Heat magazine, or a time without the constant media updates on her weight loss, weight gain, weight anything. There were the unfortunate breast enlargements, the allegations of David Beckhamâs affairs. And yet sheâs still going. I donât care if she never smiles for the paparazzi (would you?), and I think sheâs genuinely pretty. I like the fact that she and David are still married and seem to be happy together; I like the fact that theyâre always out with their children.
Most of all, Iâm fascinated by the pregnancies. She recently gave birth to her fourth baby: how does she do it? Iâm the same height and weight as Posh. I know that every womanâs reproductive system is different, but let me tell youâyouâre unlikely to ovulate naturally at that weight. I donât understand how she can conceive and carry a baby. How is that possible? ( Masses of fertility drugs and a large dollop of IVF is what one doctor-friend told meâalthough of course thatâs just his opinion.) Faced with the necessity to gain weight in order to have a baby, I feel envious at her Earth Mother act; more than that I feel inadequate and frustrated. Howcome Posh gets to stay thin and elegant, when normal women have to have a certain level of body fat?
Speaking of fat, Victoriaâs eating habits are a particular source of media frenzy: thereâs an entire industry devoted to it. Apparently sheâll only eat fish and steamed vegetables; apparently sheâs eating only pineapple now; apparently she takes a small set of scales into restaurants and weighs her food; apparently she cuts each portion in half and sends the other half back to the kitchen. Who knows whether itâs fact or entirely media fictionâbut the messages about food, body shape, and diet are certainly very confusing.
A photographer ex-boyfriend of mine once told me that the most lucrative paparazzi shots are those either up a womanâs skirtâthe so-called âmoney shotâ (when sheâs getting out of the car, or falling out of a nightclub)âor a female celebrity eating. âItâs really good if sheâs not wearing knickers, and even better if sheâs eating a hamburger.â
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Basically, when it comes to women, both aging and eating are somehow shameful. That sounds extreme, but itâs true. And if you canât age and you canât eat, living is rather difficult. More than forty years after Germaine Greer published The Female Eunuch , a womanâs worth is still very often measured by how she looks rather than by what she does. Just this morning I read a profile in The Observer of Christine Lagarde, the recently elected head of the International Monetary Fund; it focused more on her sex appeal, piercing blue eyes, and long legs than it did on her powerful new role. Lagarde is in her early fifties and likes designer clothesâso what? It doesnât seem to matter if men have wrinkles or gray hairâthink Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Robert Redford. We donât care how old they are, or scrutinize their thighs for signsof cellulite, or juxtapose pictures of them with and without beer bellies on the beach.
Most of all, we donât gasp over pictures of famous men tucking into their food. This obsession with what women really eat is exemplified by the recent phenomenon of DIPE. DIPE is an acronym (coined in Hollywood) that stands for âDocumented Instance of Public Eating.â Itâs actually pretty funny: in any interview with a high-profile