as you tell someone where you’re going (should anything occur) and have got your little bag of tricks handy (containing essentials like condoms, clean knickers, make-up, mobile) you’re free to take advantage of what’s on offer.
Here’s an idea for you…
If you don’t want to go all the way, restrict yourself to snogging someone passionately in a public street. You avoid the risk of bringing someone home/going to their place and it gives you a ‘dry’ run to see how you feel about casual dating.
It’s a good idea to snog him intensely first before making up your mind. You can tell a lot about a man from the way he kisses. Dance with him if possible; does his body respond well to yours? Also bring up the subject of safe sex before you’ve dragged him away anywhere. Get the basics out of the way: where you’re going, contraception, if you’re sleeping over.
Many one-night stands are fuelled by alcohol which is a big passion killer, so don’t get too wasted. Ideally, once you’re in a suitable location, you should be able to pick up where you left off. Initiate things by kissing and hugging first. Aim to give and receive as much foreplay as possible (crap conquests lead to a rushed orgasm, and its benefits are largely psychological).
Don’t turn cold as soon as you’ve come, but don’t expect roses either. Discretion is everything. If you’ve made it clear there’s no commitment, don’t be afraid to be affectionate, or enjoy multiple orgasms. It’s meant to be fun!
39. Giving it some
It feels good to give pleasure to your partner. You want to hear those moans. Here are a few tricks to put up your sleeve.
Just kissing him is sexier if you play with his lower lip. Suck it into your mouth and run your tongue down to his chin, it should send a shock wave he’ll feel in his penis. The neck is also a known erogenous zone, particularly the area under the Adam’s apple. Men also respond well to massage but before you get down to it search for other hot spots. Does he like having his nipples touched? Use your hands, tongue and a hot mouth to give him the once-over.
Don’t forget to talk dirty to him, and let him see as much of your body as possible. Men are much more receptive to sight and smell, so if you want to give him a handjob, do it so he can see your excited vagina. It’s less work if you use lubricant on your hands – his penis will automatically bump up and down, so use pressure that feels good for him. The most sensitive part of the penis is the frenulum (where the head meets the shaft) so stimulate this extra well. One technique is to keep one hand on the penis at all times stroking its head (preferably slick with lube) while your other hand gives long strokes to the rest of his penis. You can add twists, move both hands differently or use one hand to nudge his perineum. Men like to have their testicles played with, and any time you stimulate multiple areas it boosts his arousal.
Here’s an idea for you…
Don’t just mount him, do a reverse girl on top position so he can get a good look at you. Just before he climaxes, reach for his ankles and feel for his pressure points just below his ankle bones and press them as he comes. It’ll feel electric!
Men love oral sex. To increase his pleasure tie your hair back so he can see you doing it; even better, do it on your knees so that he can cop an eyeful of your breasts and extended neck. Brush your lips against his head, tickle him with your tongue and vary the sucking strokes.
During sex, just as he should be looking to stimulate your clitoris, look for his hot spots. Kneading the testicles works well, particularly the seam of it which contains lots of nerve endings. Some men can orgasm just from prostate stimulation, the male G-spot, which is just inside the anus. You could probe this with a finger or insert a well-greased butt-plug, but check first if he’s game.
40. Blow jobs 101
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Rebecca Hamilton, Conner Kressley