without letting go, in a circular motion.
Place the palm of your hand on her mons pubis and, with a little pressure, move it up and down.
Insert two of your fingers in her vagina about an inch deep and press up a little. You will touch her G-spot. Move your fingers gently in a circular motion, and see what awaits you!
Secrete all the saliva you can. You can use a piece of gum if you want. With your wet tongue, lick around the entrance to the vagina.
Sex and fear
“I never had problems reaching an orgasm through masturbation, but the fear of getting pregnant inhibits me so much that I almost never get there when I make love with Ángel.”
Julia, 22 years old
For centuries, sexuality and procreation have been inextricably linked. There were no really effective methods to prevent pregnancy, so every time a woman made love with a man, she ran the risk of getting pregnant. If you want to have a child, this chapter, for now, is not for you. But if this is not your case, and if, like me, you think that sex should not be for procreation only, you will agree that, in addition and above all, it is an almost inexhaustible source of play, pleasure, and communication. For this reason, the widest possible knowledge of the various contraceptive methods is essential to leading a sexual life free from fears and inhibitions. It is about enjoying your body and having wonderful orgasms. Remember that staying relaxed and stress-free is essential to having orgasms easily. So read, learn well, and select the method that best fits your situation.
T HE IDEAL CONTRACEPTIVE METHOD
The truly ideal thing about contraceptive methods is the fact that they exist. Only since their emergence have women been able to enjoy sex freely. As to whether one is better than another, it is difficult to give a definitive answer, and, moreover, progress and new discoveries are made continually. The most appropriate method depends on each person and each situation. We will give an overview of the most common methods, and you can decide which one is ideal for you. Or the ideal ones—indeed, gynecologists recommend combining a few methods for total security.
Condom. Much has been said about the technological revolution and how it has changed society with computers, mobile phones, and everything else. But, for us, the most important revolution happened the day the condom was discovered. That wonderful little balloon that men put on before the sexual act—if it is well placed and you have checked the expiration date—is 100% secure because sperm does not reach the uterus. It is also unique when it comes to preventing sexually transmitted diseases. I have friends who complain that the condom feels unpleasant, or that it is a nuisance to stop to put it on just before starting. And I have known men who were reluctant to use it (of course, we never got to have sex). What matters is that it exists, and it is a great solution. It can even elicit a sexual game: try to put it on him, or choose condoms with different flavors—mmm, berry-flavored fellatio—or with those little ridges on the tip that caress particularly sensitive areas.
There are also female condoms. Many women consider them a good choice, especially if they do not have a steady partner.
Diaphragm. This is a kind of rubber cap that the woman inserts into her vagina to block access to the cervix. It should always be used together with a spermicidal. It is great for some, but it has a few drawbacks. If you intend on having a sexual relationship for the first time with someone you do not know well—that irresistible stranger who came on to you—it is not recommended. First, it is not effective in preventing STDs, and you have to wear it for 2 hours before having intercourse. Another drawback is that the first time you wear it, it should be put in place by a gynecologist; then you must ensure that you have it properly placed because misplacement can cancel its effect. However, it has the advantage that it
Place the palm of your hand on her mons pubis and, with a little pressure, move it up and down.
Insert two of your fingers in her vagina about an inch deep and press up a little. You will touch her G-spot. Move your fingers gently in a circular motion, and see what awaits you!
Secrete all the saliva you can. You can use a piece of gum if you want. With your wet tongue, lick around the entrance to the vagina.
Sex and fear
“I never had problems reaching an orgasm through masturbation, but the fear of getting pregnant inhibits me so much that I almost never get there when I make love with Ángel.”
Julia, 22 years old
For centuries, sexuality and procreation have been inextricably linked. There were no really effective methods to prevent pregnancy, so every time a woman made love with a man, she ran the risk of getting pregnant. If you want to have a child, this chapter, for now, is not for you. But if this is not your case, and if, like me, you think that sex should not be for procreation only, you will agree that, in addition and above all, it is an almost inexhaustible source of play, pleasure, and communication. For this reason, the widest possible knowledge of the various contraceptive methods is essential to leading a sexual life free from fears and inhibitions. It is about enjoying your body and having wonderful orgasms. Remember that staying relaxed and stress-free is essential to having orgasms easily. So read, learn well, and select the method that best fits your situation.
T HE IDEAL CONTRACEPTIVE METHOD
The truly ideal thing about contraceptive methods is the fact that they exist. Only since their emergence have women been able to enjoy sex freely. As to whether one is better than another, it is difficult to give a definitive answer, and, moreover, progress and new discoveries are made continually. The most appropriate method depends on each person and each situation. We will give an overview of the most common methods, and you can decide which one is ideal for you. Or the ideal ones—indeed, gynecologists recommend combining a few methods for total security.
Condom. Much has been said about the technological revolution and how it has changed society with computers, mobile phones, and everything else. But, for us, the most important revolution happened the day the condom was discovered. That wonderful little balloon that men put on before the sexual act—if it is well placed and you have checked the expiration date—is 100% secure because sperm does not reach the uterus. It is also unique when it comes to preventing sexually transmitted diseases. I have friends who complain that the condom feels unpleasant, or that it is a nuisance to stop to put it on just before starting. And I have known men who were reluctant to use it (of course, we never got to have sex). What matters is that it exists, and it is a great solution. It can even elicit a sexual game: try to put it on him, or choose condoms with different flavors—mmm, berry-flavored fellatio—or with those little ridges on the tip that caress particularly sensitive areas.
There are also female condoms. Many women consider them a good choice, especially if they do not have a steady partner.
Diaphragm. This is a kind of rubber cap that the woman inserts into her vagina to block access to the cervix. It should always be used together with a spermicidal. It is great for some, but it has a few drawbacks. If you intend on having a sexual relationship for the first time with someone you do not know well—that irresistible stranger who came on to you—it is not recommended. First, it is not effective in preventing STDs, and you have to wear it for 2 hours before having intercourse. Another drawback is that the first time you wear it, it should be put in place by a gynecologist; then you must ensure that you have it properly placed because misplacement can cancel its effect. However, it has the advantage that it