Free Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man? by Rhonda Frost Shanae Hall

voice and notice signs written on the wall because they may be trying to tell you something. I can say that I have had the blessing of having men love me a few times in my life and the thing that is consistent is that real love is genuine. It will seem as if the man really does eat and breathe you. Not in the crazy stalker kind of way, but in a calm, sweet, and vulnerable way. My ex-husband is one of those persons.
    I can remember a time when he had gone to Las Vegas for a convention. He called often to let me know he was thinking of me and missed me. He had a paid hotel room at one of the casinos. Yet, while we were talking on the phone, he decided right in the middle of our conversation that he was going to drive all the way back home just to be next to me that night. It was a seven-hour drive. We both talked to each other with such excitement and anticipation. He didn’t care how tired he was, or that he could have been resting or playing the slots or poker all weekend. His heart was with me. During our first years together, he would lie next to me, look into my eyes, breathe my air, and tell me just how beautiful I was. Those were magical moments for me.
    He saw me at my worst, smelled my morning breath, tried to understand me, and held on even after people around him suggested he shouldn’t—all in the name of love. Now I am not going to pretend that it was all heavenly all the time, because Lord knows we had a whole host of other issues that are mentioned in other chapters. What I will say is that some of the actions he took made me believe he sincerely loved me. The guy who loves you shows you by how he acts, by what he is willing to do, and how he treats you and your loved ones. What he says, how he holds and kisses you, are important, as well. It seems almost impossible to get love, chemistry, and reciprocal feelings all at the same time. But, when you get it, you know it, and you feel it. But if there’s doubt in your heart or mind about a person, honor that doubt. It may be the Universe trying to tell you something.
    Know that there are men who prey on a woman’s vulnerabilities. These men know we want and need them to love us to make us feel special and to accept our situations and our families. They know that we are built to be nurturers and we need protectors and providers. So they say the right things and often do the right things, at least initially. Their real intentions will unfold in due time. If you take enough time to get to know him, and ask the important questions about his life, his family, his ex-wife or girlfriend, his job, education, and background— not once but several times, in several different ways— the truth will emerge.
    Last, when you’re first getting to know him, if he offers you free trips or gifts or other things too good to be true, call his bluff to see what he actually does. With time, you will know if he is really looking for love or just a plain old-fashioned booty call.

Y eah, that’s right, “Goat roaches!” Write it down and memorize it. With all those descriptive words out there to label women, we came up with one or two words over time that we use to describe men in their lowest forms. Have you ever heard of the words “chicken head,” “strawberry,” or “gold digger”? No doubt these were created by a man to describe some woman. These words have been tossed around and applied to women for decades. They describe women in what men have deemed our lowest possible forms. We therefore introduce the term “goat roaches” to describe certain types of male behavior. When you think of a roach, what comes to mind? Yeah, I know—something nasty and disgusting. It’s the last thing you want to see in your kitchen, bathroom, or bedroom. Same thing applies here. Let’s carry on, shall we?
    Niggahs and Flies; the More I Know Niggahs,
the More I Like Flies
    This statement is a reflection of any man whose behavior is so trifling, so bold, so disrespectful, that the