Free You're Strong Enough by Kassi Pontious

let Satan convince you to blame God, so you won’t counsel with Him, seek His guidance and continue your quest.
    If you find yourself deeply discouraged because of the actions of others, pray and ask our Heavenly Father for help. Ask Him to heal you and help you overcome the bad that has happened to you. Don’t get stuck in the blame game. If you do, you will never find a solution to your problems. Though God can’t take away man’s free agency, He can help us through with the tools He has given us, through the healing power of the atonement and through helping us to try and learn from our trials and challenges.
    3rd: Build Character and learn lessons
    The things that happen to us on our quest will always be the product of free agency—our free agency and the free agency of others. Typically, when good things happen to us, we don’t question it. But, when bad things happen to us, we question. Therefore, our Heavenly Father does not want us to just let go when things go wrong in our life. He wants us to learn from it. The trials you face here on Earth are for your learning and growth. They are the obstacles on the course that we must conquer.
    Trials are uniquely chosen for us for our ultimate growth. Challenges are caused by others’ poor choices. Our Heavenly Father wants us to learn and grow from both. You have unique strengths and gifts to overcome and learn the lessons that God wants you to learn. Others may encounter similar trials, but they aren’t you and they won’t learn the same lesson you do.
    For example: Let’s say two of your friends have been date raped by the same guy. (He went to jail.) One learned, over time, to forgive and move on. The other learned to forgive as well, but decided to make sure it didn’t happen to others. So, she started a website to educate women on what to look for when dating. Each moved on, but ended up learning different lessons.
    Each trial and challenge is unique to us and so are the lessons. Everyone will learn something different from their past experiences, though their experiences could be similar. Don’t compare yourself to others when it comes to learning and growth. Each person learns and grows at a different speed, and with different lessons learned.
    When looking at your past and discovering what you have learned from experiences in your life, please remember one thing: Your past is there for you to learn from, not dwell upon. Our past experiences are there to build character and teach us lessons. Our past is not there to be dwelt upon or consume us. If you dwell on your past and the negative things that have happened to you, you will find yourself stuck and unable to move forward.
    Look at your past experiences and see how you can learn from them so you can move forward with your quest. For example, if you come across a berry bush on your path and you decide to eat this fruit, which results in making you sick, wouldn’t you stay away from this type of berry next time? Similarly, God wants us to learn from our mistakes, trials and challenges, so as to make us wiser for the next obstacle during our quest.
    No trial or challenge is wasted with God. Whether it’s our own trials or the challenges that come from the choices of others, God can use them to our benefit if we allow Him. You have all the power to choose what to do with your experiences and challenges. Ask yourself next time a trial comes along: Do I learn from this or do I allow it to cloud my view of God and myself?
    Same Lesson, Different Time
    I encourage you to ask our Heavenly Father to make you stronger and build character because of your trials. If you find yourself always asking, “Why me?” instead of “What can I learn from this?” you will remain stuck. The “Why me?” question, will keep you walking in a circle on your quest and you will find you end up in the same place you started with no progress. The problem will continue to show up in your life. Let’s say you find yourself dating