Free Kiss Me Like You Mean It by Dr. David Clarke Page A

love to the coming of spring. It is fresh, new, and beautiful. He wants to go out into this new world and enjoy it with her. He can’t wait to spend time with her.
    Solomon (2:14)
“O my dove, in the clefts of the rock,
In the secret place of the steep pathway,
Let me see your form,
Let me hear your voice;
For your voice is sweet,
And your form is lovely.”
    Why is Solomon asking Shulamith out? To have fun with her, to get to know her better as a person, and eventually to see her beautiful body.
    Shulamith is not a passive, demure, little lady. Oh, no! She is attracted to Solomon and makes no bones about the fact that she wants to be with him sexually. Check out her erotic proposal to Solomon:
    Shulamith (7:11) “Come, my beloved, let us go out into the country, Let us spend the night in the villages.”
    She asks Solomon to explore the countryside and, later that night, to explore her body. She wants sex! She doesn’t have to ask him twice.
    Shulamith (7:12)
“Let us rise early and go to the vineyards;
Let us see whether the vine has budded
And its blossoms have opened,
And whether the pomegranates have bloomed.
There I will give you my love.”
    One date followed by intercourse isn’t enough for Shulamith. This is a two-day date. It’s a getaway. She wants to play with Solomon in the vineyards and then make love outside!
    Solomon and Shulamith love being alone. It’s not what they do that’s important. What excites them is just being in each other’s company. The same progression is evident in both these passages: going out together, being playful and having fun, and capping it off with passionate sex.

Get Out of the Home
    It’s important to go out regularly on fun, playful dates. Shoot for once a week. At the bare minimum, go out once every two weeks. No kids. No pets. No family. No friends. Just the two of you.
    Don’t do the same old, boring routine of dinner and a movie. You have two brains. Use them! Be creative! Do activities you did back when you were dating. These will bring back great memories and romantic feelings.
    You are going out to play. Do what your partner enjoys. Find an activity that you both enjoy. If necessary, alternate the activities on your dates.
    Mall Picnic in a Park Trade Show Frisbee Car Show Tennis
    Craft Fair Bowling Beach Golf Garage Sale-ing Dancing
    The list of possible activities is almost endless. Look for activities that allow you to interact and communicate. Again, it’s not what you do that is the key. It’s being together and having fun.
    Another idea is to play practical jokes on your friends. Sandy is a master of this genre. One time several years ago, we toilet-papered the home of Wayne and Denise Hall. They were inside and didn’t have a clue. Sandy and I wore black clothes and pulled off the commando mission with skill and flair. And a lot of laughter. The best part was leaving a note implicating my best friend, Rocky Glisson, as the culprit. It was sweet and a total riot to nail both the Halls and Rocky with one prank!

Have Fun in the Home
    Loosen up in your home and look for ways to be playful. Silly comments. Good-natured teasing. Crazy board games. Funny little notes left for your spouse. Point out stories in the newspaper about people who do incredibly dumb things. Think goofy and immature, and you’ll be on the right track.
    I love being playful with Sandy in the home. She loves it too. One time, I was home at lunchtime on a weekday. It looked like rain, so I told Sandy I was leaving early to get to work to beat the rain. It was dark, windy, and you could hear the rumbling of thunder.
    I walked up to Sandy, took her in my arms, and said, “Baby, it’s going to start pouring any second. But do I care? No. I want—no, I need—one more stolen kiss before I go. This kiss may cost me. I may get soaked, but it’s worth it to taste your ruby red lips.” And I parked a real smoocher on her.
    Dumb? Sure. Silly? Certainly. Fun and playful? Oh, yeah.
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