Free The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue

erotica, watch porn, play music, dress in costume. It’s extremely helpful to be aroused when you “make your entrance” into the scene. Masturbating a little or touching yourself erotically before the scene begins will turn you on and help take the edge off any fear you might be holding on to—plus it gives you the proper motivation!
    Plan It, Janet
    There is a whole world of sexual expression and adventure around the corner when you add planning, details, and surprises to your scenario. That stripper fantasy will be even hotter with the purchase of a red vinyl bustier, and your partner’s eyes will pop out of their head when you set your room up as a stage for a lap dance. That Halloween police uniform will be much more effective if you have a pair of mirrored sunglasses, and the experience will be unforgettable if you “arrest” him on the hood of his car—even if it’s parked safely in the garage.
    Once you’ve made your fantasies and expectations clear to each other, and covered what both of you don’t want to include, you’ll have a better idea of what to wear, how to accessorize, and the ideal setting for your scene. With this information, you can plan the logistics of your scene.
    Make a date and set a time with a realistic window,allowing for the fantasy to run for at least an hour. You’ll want plenty of time for the fantasy to play itself out. Let it go on as long as possible—this makes for a more effective scene and a lasting impression. Make sure that no one will interrupt you—your roommates are definitely gone, the kids are away—and unplug the phone. You don’t want any distractions or interruptions to jar you from your fantasy, or run the risk of having to explain your private lives to anyone. If your fantasy might include loud music, the unmistakable sounds of paddling or whipping, or escalate to yelling, be sure to have your windows and doors closed, be sure the neighbors are at work, or have a cover story ready in case someone checks in on you.
    Stock your “play” area with plenty of water (stay hydrated!), any sex toys you might want, lube, towels, and props. Give yourself plenty of time to relax afterward, as well. Have some snacks and tasty beverages waiting for you—if your scene is successful, it’ll feel good to recharge, and if things don’t go as you planned or hoped, you’ll have some nourishment to help you regroup.
    Surprise scenes should be planned out carefully, and the person being surprised should always have some idea about what’s coming—even if they don’t know exactly when. What if you deck your apartment out as the set of Star Trek , don your Klingon makeup, and she comes home upset and exhausted from an awful day at work? Let your partner know you want to plan a fantasy surprise, and tell them which role-playing scenario you have in mind. Ask when your partner will be available to play, but tell them you ultimately want it to remain a surprise. Suggest a few dates, such as Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday evening. It’salso okay to give your partner an assigned date and time to come over, or to meet you at a given location—in fact, you can erotically “command” them! Tell him or her to meet you at a certain café, in a secretary outfit, and surprise them with a job interview. Then adjourn to your “office.” Turn an ordinary meeting into a special evening by asking them to come over and mentioning that you need a “repairman” to fix your sink—hint, hint.
    Some surprise scenes will take careful negotiation, especially if they involve force or implied violence, being out in public, or other partners. Be sure to read more about negotiation in Chapter 3 , public sex in Chapter 8 , real and implied force in Chapter 10 , and adding partners in Chapter 5 .
    Public role play—especially in everyday roles—can be a secret thrill that you both