Free Instant Orgasm: Excitement at First Touch by steve bodansky

does not become your primary concern. Again, we believe it is a good idea to experiment with various touches, strokes, and pressures; that is, each time you practice this exercise, do it somewhat differently.
     
For Women
Continue to tease yourself around your genitals, avoiding directly touching your clitoris for as long as you like. Eventually you will want to lubricate your inner lips, introitus, and perineum, and then finally move on to your clitoris. You can take your time, lingering over any area that feels especially wonder- ful, or you can quickly spread lubricant over the entire area. When you are ready to touch your clitoris, put a small dab of lubricant on your fingertip and pull back your hood to expose the head. Spread the lubricant over the entire head of your clitoris.
Chapter 5 details many ways to retract the clitoral hood and spread lubri- cant. For this exercise, however, we want you to touch your clitoris using only one type of stroke. Try a short stroke, focusing on the most sensitive part of
your clitoris, wherever this is for you. To discover which part of your clito- ris is the most sensitive, start by stroking all the different quadrants, one at a time. You can also try a longer stroke, moving from bottom to top on the left side, and then switch your strokes to the right side. The object is to experience as much feeling as you can and also to notice which areas feel best and which kinds of strokes you prefer—light or firm, fast or slow.
Continue, one stroke at a time, for as long as you enjoy it. At some point, start stroking yourself without pausing between strokes. This should get you going a little more intensely. You can always stop when you want to peak— that is, when you want to allow your level of arousal to decrease a little so you can take things higher with the next stroke or series of strokes (described in more detail in Chapter 7). But try to be aware of how many strokes you can feel without losing focus either mentally or physically. Do this for as long as you like, from a few seconds to many minutes. The longer you practice this part of the exercise, the more often you can take breaks and peak yourself.
     
adding Connections
When your clitoris is feeling really good, we want you to add a secondary area to the equation. This can be any other part of your body; however, we recom- mend using an area that has erectile tissue, such as your lips (either facial or vaginal), your anus, or your nipple. Apply a little lubricant to the particular area. Hopefully, your clitoris will be engorged enough by now so that it bulges freely away from the body and you no longer have to pull the hood back.
Simultaneously stroke both your clitoris and the secondary area with the same kind of stroke. You may want to start by using a single stroke, simulta- neously stroking both areas one time, then stopping for a few moments, then repeating. Do this a number of times. Then just stroke your clitoris for one stroke while removing your hand from the secondary area. For the next few repetitions, again stroke the areas at the same time. Next, stroke your second- ary spot while leaving your hand off your clitoris. Then once again stroke them both. We are trying to build a connection between your clitoris and the sec-
ondary area. Be patient. Notice if you feel any sensation in the area that is not
being touched.
After doing the single-stroke technique, try some continuous strokes, stroking both areas in-sync. Repeat the above instructions, alternately remov- ing your hand from the secondary area and then the clitoris, but this time use continuous strokes rather than single strokes. When your hand is removed from either body part, continue the stroking motion in the air, slightly above the body.
Again, the more you practice this exercise, the more you will build a con- nection between your clitoris and other parts of your body. This is helpful to women who are not easily orgasmic during intercourse, as they learn