Free The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know by Mantak Chia, Maneewan Chia, Douglas Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams

invaluable asset. We all feel a little silly and maybe not so sexy when we begin to explore our pleasure for the first time. “I can’t believe I’m years old, and I’m lying here with this battery-operated thingamajig trying to get myself off!” It’s healthy to laugh about it. But then continue with your body exploration. It may take several sessions of self-pleasuring before you find the techniques that set you off. Remember that finding your pleasure points, regardless of whether or not you have an orgasm, will be a sweet reward.
    As with the last exercise, set the stage for your self-pleasuring by being sure you will not be interrupted for at least thirty minutes. Do whatever it is that helps you relax: taking a bath, exercising, drinking a small glass of wine, 7 playing music, lighting candles, and so forth.

    Exer cise 9

    BUILDING TO ORGASM
PLEASURE YOURSELF: Using the techniques you learned in the last exercise, begin touching yourself, starting fi rst with hands, feet, legs, and arms and moving in gradually to the more erogenous zones — nipples, clitoris, and vagina. As before, experiment with different kinds of strokes and different areas of stimulation.
TRY TEASING YOURSELF: There is no hurry here. When you feel yourself building toward orgasm, prolong the experience by touching places that are somewhat less sensitive and then returning to more sensitive spots. Bring yourself close to orgasm and then back off several times. By doing this you increase the intensity of the orgasm.
TRY A HANDY HELPER: If you are not easily or frequently orgasmic, it may take several sessions before you are able to have an orgasm with self-stimulation. If you are not successful with manual stimulation and you feel comfortable, try using a vibrator. As mentioned, many women fi nd that using a vibrator for clitoral stimulation is the quickest and easiest way to orgasm.
AN ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE: After an orgasm or after stopping the exercise, take some time to continue stroking your body. Be grateful to your body for providing so much pleasure. And most important, be grateful to yourself for taking the time to give yourself the gift of self-love.
     
    Many women fi nd that using a vibrator for clitoral stimulation
    is the quickest and easiest way to orgasm.

    If you are not able to have an orgasm on the first several tries, be patient with yourself. Any amount of pleasure you experience is good in and of itself. Orgasm is not the ultimate goal; the ultimate goal is to find pleasure in your body. All that is necessary to practice self-cultivation and Taoist lovemaking is the arousal of sexual energy, or chi. For further information on difficulty with orgasm, read the section “Missing the Big Bang: Overcoming Anorgasmia” (anorgasmia is the absence of orgasm) at the end of this chapter. The following exercises for strengthening your PC muscle will also help you intensify the pleasure you already experience and help you on your way to multi-orgasmic lovemaking.

    Your Sex Muscle
    If you had to pick one muscle that is essential to your sexual pleasure and fulfillment, it would be your PC muscle, sometimes called your love muscle
    Exercising this muscle is far more important to your sexual life than all the hours spent working out in the gym.

    A woman’s PC muscle, which is important

    for becoming multi-orgasmic, extends from the pubic bone to the tailbone.
    or sex muscle. Exercising this muscle is far more important to your sexual life than all the hours spent working out in the gym. Strengthening your pubococcygeus (or PC ) muscle will help you have orgasms when you wish, improve you ability to have multiple orgasms, and give you the strength to pleasure your partner intensely during intercourse.
    Your PC muscle is a muscular sling at the bottom of your pelvis that supports all of your sexual and reproductive organs as well as your urethra and rectum. Contracting your PC muscle will increase the pleasure you feel and the ease