Free A KeyHolder's Handbook by Georgia Ivey Green Page B

like how long they will have to go before they get relief, and if they will actually get to have a full orgasm or not.
    One of the best weapons in your arsenal is fear. I don't mean that you have to literally terrify him, just give him possibilities of things that could happen. Letting him know who is in charge, you and you alone, can instill just the right amount of fear. But he has to believe it. Statements such as, “This is what you wanted, so now you are going to have to live with the consequences,” can quickly establish that you are in charge, which is what he said he wanted. And it can instill just the right amount of fear.
    Knowing his fantasies is another way to get into his head, so to speak, when you can't do anything physical. If he has a fantasy that includes him being dressed up as a maid, use it. You can tell him that you have been planning on making him dress up in women's clothing, but that isn't going to get deep enough into his fantasy. What you need to say is, “I have been thinking about dressing you up and taking you out to dinner.” Something that pushes his fantasy beyond what he expects from you.
    He might have fantasies about you bringing in another man to have a little three-way sex. Even if you flatly refuse to ever include another person in your private (sexual) activities, you can still use his fantasies to psychologically thrill him. For example, you might tell him sometime, that you were thinking of having one of his co-workers join you for a really exciting sexual encounter. Then mention that you have always wanted to see him perform oral sex on another man. That last part was never a part of his fantasy, and he is now afraid you will try to make that happen.
    Not all psychological teasing has to be the type that would frighten him. In fact, most of the time, you will want to tease him with things that he knows might really happen. For example, you might tell him, in a text message, that you are laying on the bed masturbating and you can't wait for him to get home. I will bet he would pass on that drink with his buddies after work that night. How hard would it be to stop for a moment in the produce aisle of the grocery store to send him a text message? Something to turn him on. Maybe tell him how interesting the cucumbers look. Or how they remind you of him. It doesn't have to be much, just a few words to let him know that you are in the mood, even if you're not.
    Of course, not everything is about him. So send him erotic messages about you and what you want. You might say something like, “I am going to need a massage tonight. And there might just be a reward in it for you, if you do a good job.” Of course, you can leave off that last part if you want. Let him wonder if his efforts will be rewarded or not. Sometimes his reward is being able to please you. And that may be all the reward he needs.
    This is a good time to incorporate his fantasies, if you know what they are. If you don't, plant some!
    That is, put a thought in his head and he will create his own fantasy from that. For example, you might tell him that you are thinking of bringing your best friend over to help you tease his penis. If you leave it at that, he will certainly develop his own fantasies concerning a second woman. It doesn't matter whether you actually plan on adding someone else or not, planting the thought in his mind will start his fantasy gears turning. You might even ask him to create a fantasy involving two women for you so that he can tell it to you later.
    Remember, it doesn't matter what the fantasy is about, he will develop one in his head and every time you mention it again, that fantasy will pop into his head and he will get aroused. The more detail you create for him the more he will think it might eventually happen. His fantasies, no matter who put them in his head, are a major driving force behind his erections, his arousal.
    Of course, adding another woman is not the only fantasy you can plant in