Free Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed by Taylor Ryan, Nick Andrews

With body language you match or mirror her body language. With conversation you do just the opposite. You say conflicting things.
     
    The easiest way to explain this would be, you respond to something a woman said with the word yes while shaking your head no. That sounds goofy and you probably wouldn't actually do that, but that is the concept. Here is something I do quite often:
     
    Many times I have been talking with a girl and she will say something like, "My ass looks fat in these jeans, or I don't like the way this shirt makes my boob's look," anything about her body as it relates to her appearance. So let’s say she says something about her ass, I will lean back and check out her ass for a second, and say, "It looks pretty good to me," or if I'm feeling froggy say, "You’re right it does." She will look at you with disbelief. Give her that sly grin and say, "I'm just kidding, it looks good to me." You are doing a couple things here. You are complimenting them for one, but doing it in a way that shows them that you are confident, you are the Alpha Male. I look at their ass and I don't care if that makes them a little uncomfortable or makes me seem a bit overbearing because I'm building sexual chemistry. In the case of the second approach you are giving them conflicting verbal cues, showing even more confidence and building even more sexual chemistry.
     
    When you bag on a woman, or make fun of them a little, you are using cocky smart ass jokes to build sexual chemistry. That can be very powerful. You don't want to be a dick, but you do want to make fun of them a little bit when it's appropriate. It's appropriate when they give you an opening. You want to do this because it is how you build sexual chemistry with the words you say. Just like when you were in first grade, and you were mean to girls you had a crush on, the same theory applies at this age. There is a fine line between poking fun and being a dick. You want to walk it but don't cross it. If you cross it you are just like every other asshole. If you can walk it you have developed a great tool for interacting with women. We will touch on different ways to do this in later chapters.
     
    Over the past few chapters we have given you a lot of different body language signals to look for, and how to respond to them. The important thing to remember is that all these things are done subconsciously. The signals being sent between men and women in a social setting are all done without their awareness. We have made you aware of this and you should be able to use this to your advantage.

 
     
    The Pick Up

 
     
    Approach and Open
     
     
    What is opening? Opening is the term used for when you approach a girl for the first time and begin conversation. It’s the first thing you say to a girl. It is the thing each one of you is sweating over every time you see a girl you are attracted to. You stand there with your buddies, trying to come up with the perfect thing to say, and you never go over and talk to her. It's the reason someone else talks to her all night. It's why she is going home with someone else and not you.
     
    Opening is probably the one thing people stress over the most, and it’s the least important part of the pick up. If you think of the pick up in stages, like we are laying it out for you in the book, opening has its place. It's exactly what we described in the last paragraph, when you first approach a girl and begin conversation; the first thing you say. That's it. In the chapters on body language we mentioned that body language accounts for roughly ninety percent of the message you are sending, while what you actually say only accounts for ten percent. Guys, she doesn't give a shit what you are saying.
     
    We want you to think of your opener as the eye contact you make with her. With her eyes she is saying, "I am interested and I am available, get your ass over here!" By holding her gaze you are saying the same. Go over there and be direct.