Free Incredible Sex (52 Brilliant Little Ideas) by Marcelle Perks, Elisabeth Wilson Page B

someone is going down on you, get them to insert a finger/s and touch you inside as well. Hitting both spots should produce deeper, more intense contractions. For penetration, you might want to experiment with positions that work the G-spot more, such as woman on top and rear entry. Or take a leaf out of the Kamasutra: in the Raised Feet posture the woman lies on her back and lifts her knees while her partner kneels around her thighs and enters her.
    Some women are so stimulated by touching the spot, they ejaculate a clear fluid – don’t worry, this is not urine. Just enjoy it if you can get it!
    Other hot spots include the U-spot (the sensitive opening to the urethra), the X-spot on the cervix and what the sex therapist Barbara Keesling calls ‘tenting’– the area behind the cervix which lifts up during sex to allow penetration of the space behind. Finally, find out if your G-spot is sensitive before having a hysterectomy – if it is, you can have a supra-cervical operation where they leave the cervix in. You don’t want to find out too late!

42.     Heading even further south
     
    Few things in life will earn you so much gratitude for a moderate amount of effort as giving great head.
    It’s not rocket science, I hear you say, how can I get it wrong? Boys, you’d be surprised… First, get your partner well and truly motoring with lots of subtle kissing, licking and teasing. This isn’t just sexy, it’s damn well essential. The clitoris is exquisitely sensitive. This cannot be emphasised enough. It can’t take direct stimulation unless its owner is aroused. I don’t suggest any man even think of approaching the clitoris (unless specifically invited) until she’s thrusting her hips towards you in a pose that tells you quite explicitly what she wants.
    Even then, approach slowly. Most of the clitoris, the so-called ‘clitoral arms’, lie under the skin. Think of the clitoris as an inverted V, with the join being the point where you can see the clitoris. Lying along each labia, pointing downwards towards the perineum, are the ‘arms’. Think of a wishbone and stimulate all of it through the skin. The clitoris has more nerves than any other part of the body – thousands more than the penis. Direct attention can frighten it off altogether. Build up to it slowly by working on the arms of the clitoris and always check for a reaction. If she’s moving her pelvis away from you – you’re going at it too hard.
    Here’s an idea for you…
     
Brush your hand gently through the pubic hair before getting down to business. This grooms out loose pubic hairs – less chance of them ending up between your teeth.
    Try specific moves and ask your lover what variations she likes. Faster, slower, harder, softer. Side to side. Circles?
    Ask questions. Will you show me where…? Do you prefer my tongue hard or soft there? If I keep going just like this, do you think you would come? If not, do you want me to carry on anyway (hey, it’s the journey not the destination)?
    If she just tells you everything’s ‘fine’ and you want some real feedback try blindfolding your lover while you’re experimenting with different techniques and strokes. Often being blindfolded makes us less self-conscious in reporting how it feels. Try asking her to give each technique a mark out of ten until she gets more confident about saying what she wants or likes.

43.     More on blow jobs
     
    Can you ever know too much?
    Your blow-job technique comes down to just two things: what you do with your tongue; and what you do with the rest of your body. What you can do with your tongue is pretty limited. The magic lies in what you can do with the rest of your body while you’re generally pleasuring him with your mouth. Incorporate the principles of kaizen (small changes causing big differences) into your blow-job technique. It’s during oral sex more than just about anything else that we tend to stick to the same pattern over and over