Free The No-Cry Separation Anxiety Solution: Gentle Ways to Make Good-bye Easy from Six Months to Six Years by Elizabeth Pantley

says it’s not uncommon and to give it
    time. Yet it’s so diffi cult to leave him in such a state every morning. I
    worry about Lucas all day long.
    I would appreciate any advice you could offer me. I’m having a hard
    enough time with the adjustment of him going off to kindergarten,
    but add his crying and pleading into the mix and I feel absolutely
    terrible. :(
    Thank you for your time. I hope to hear back from you soon!
    Sincerely,
    Christine, mother of six-year-old Lucas and four-year-old Levi
    I wish I could have hugged Christine and her little Lucas right then
    and there! I could feel her pain, because I’ve lived through it before,
    and I also understood her little boy’s uncertainty and fear. I could
    imagine the stress and frustration their mornings held.
    I wrote back to Christine and assured her that Lucas was very
    normal. Making the move to kindergarten is a big step in a child’s
    life (see Chapter 4). I gave her hope that we could work it through.
    I sent her some information and a whole list of tips and gave her
    instructions on how to create and use a Magic Bracelet. Her next
    note arrived an astonishingly short six days later:
    Hi, Elizabeth!
    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! :)
    I followed all your ideas this week, and I made a bracelet for Lucas
    immediately after receiving your e-mail. I gave it to him the next
    morning, explaining that it carried my love in it. I held it to my heart,
    gave it hugs and kisses, and told him that anytime he felt sad or missed
    me, all he had to do was touch the bracelet and he would feel my love.
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    His face brightened up! It was like the key to peace for him. He really
    liked this idea, and off he went to school—actually smiling!
    We are now fi ve school days, absolutely, wonderfully, 100 percent
    tear-free! :O
    He asks me every morning to “put my love” into the bracelet
    and happily puts it on. Today, as we were leaving for school, he said,
    “Thank you, Mama, for making me this bracelet. It helps me a lot.”
    I was speechless.
    I can’t begin to tell you how much this has changed our home.
    Thank you sooo very much!
    My four-year-old son, Levi, just started preschool, so I made one
    for him too. He was doing okay (anything is okay compared to Lucas’s
    problems), but the bracelet has made our mornings with Levi much
    easier too.
    I have spoken with several other parents at school who are hav-
    ing separation issues as well and have told them your advice and the
    results we’ve seen. There will probably be a few more preschoolers
    and kindergartners walking around school with Magic Bracelets next
    week.
    You have my sincere and heartfelt thanks, and I am sure Lucas’s
    thanks as well.
    Fondly,
    Christine
    Your Child’s Magic Bracelet
    The fi rst step to putting this idea into practice is to fi nd or make the
    perfect bracelet for your child. The actual bracelet style is not what’s
    important (this isn’t about fashion)—it is the power it holds. You can
    receive a free Magic Bracelet by following the instructions provided
    on my website a t www.nocrysolution.com.
    No matter which bracelet you decide to use, you may discover that
    it becomes a cherished part of your little one’s separation confi dence.
    If that’s the case, you’ll want to have one or two more as backups
    in case the original bracelet is lost or damaged, as is common with
    young children’s belongings.

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    You can buy or make your own bracelet for your child. If you do,
    make sure the bracelet fi ts the following criteria:
    • It has no small parts that could be potential choking hazards
    for your child or younger friends or siblings.
    • It is sturdy enough to stand up to playtime and heavy use.
    • It is easy for your child to put on and take off.
    • It is a simple, unobtrusive style that can be worn for the next
    year or longer, if necessary.
    • It is easy to