Free The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino

because most people do not. And it also sounds like you know a lot about STDs, which makes you more educated than the average guy on that subject. You may be having an allergic reaction to the lube you are using . Most lubes, whether water-based or silicone-based have similar ingredients, but they are not all the same. Personally, I got a red, itchy pussy from one particular brand of lube that I was trying out for the first time. I never used it again, and I haven’t had the symptoms again. So, try using a different brand of lube and see if that changes anything. You could also go to your doctor when you’re having symptoms to get a full examination and see what he or she has to say. It sounds like you know a lot about STDs, but it’s always better to be safe than sorry.

Gloves
    Putting a glove on your hand for rubbing and finger-fucking protects both you and your partner, especially if you have any cuts, scratches, or even torn cuticles, which can provide STDs direct access to your bloodstream. Gloves made of latex are the most popular and widely available, and latex is a good safer sex barrier. If, however, you are allergic or sensitive to latex, there are gloves made of other materials, including nitrile, vinyl, and neoprene. Powdered gloves make getting them on and off easier , but the powder can often irritate people’s skin; if your skin feels itchy or turns red and you know you’re not allergic to the glove material, find one that’s not powdered.
    Gloves come in several different sizes, from extra small to extra large, and it’s important to find the right size for your hand. A glove that’s too small will cut off your circulation and have a greater risk of tearing. One that is too big gives the wearer less sensitivity, and can feel baggy and uncomfortable to the receptive partner. Besides being great for safer sex, gloves can also reassure you—if your nails are long or ragged, if you or your partner are squeamish about the cleanliness of anal penetration, or if you want to smooth out your fingers before they go inside your lover. When you wear a glove, always use plenty of lube to reduce friction and make penetration smoother.

Oral Sex Barriers
    To protect you and your partner during oral-anal contact, you can use one of several safer sex barriers. The most popular is a latex dental dam. Originally designed for use by dentists (as the name indicates), dental dams are squares of latex that safer sex practitioners have co-opted for use as oral sex barriers. Because they were not developed with sex in mind, dental dams can be too small and too thick to make them ideal. Several companies—like Glyde, Slicks, Lixx, and Good Vibrations—have improved upon the dental dam, designing larger, thinner dams specifically for oral sex that do the job much better than their traditional counterparts. Hot Dam makes polyurethane dams for those allergic to latex. Some dams come scented or flavored, and most are available at better sex toy stores.
    To make your own dam out of a latex or nonlatex glove, you can cut a nonlubricated condom up one side; these tend to be thinner like the Glydes, allowing both partners more feeling and greater sensitivity. You can also transform a latex glove into a dam (see illustration 6): Cut the wrist and the fingers off, leaving the thumb intact, then cut up the side where the pinkie was. Open it up, stick your tongue in the thumb slot, and voilà—it’s like a condom for your tongue! This is my favorite kind of dam because it affords both giver and receiver the highest sensitivity. For obvious reasons, it’s best to use a glove that isn’t powdered or to rinse the powder off before you put your mouth near it. Try putting a dab of lube on the inside and outside of the thumb for even more sensitivity.

    Store-bought plastic wrap (brands like Saran Wrap) is not just for leftovers—it also makes a good barrier for rimming. Plastic wrap is less expensive and easier to find than latex dams,