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unaroused—grows in length and width when a woman is aroused; vaginal tenting can lead to more comfortable and pleasurable intercourse).
    â€¢ Play with a vibrator. Vibration stimulates both men’s and women’s sexual response. In a study my research team at Indiana University published in 2009 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine , we found that vibrator use was linked to greater arousal, ease of orgasm, and lubrication. Several minutes of vibrator play may help with vaginal lubrication and tenting, which can make a larger penis size a more comfortable fit.
    â€¢ Lube it up! If you’re not currently trying to become pregnant (lubricant can interfere with sperm movement), try adding lubricant to your or his genitals before sex begins. Start with a dime- or nickel-sized amount of a water-based lubricant and add more as wanted. Lube can be particularly helpful for accommodating men with thick penises.
    â€¢ Share the load. Get a soft, flexible masturbation sleeve (also called a pocket pussy) that has a hole on each end, available from many in-home sex toy party companies, sex boutiques, and websites. Lubricate the sleeve, slide it down his shaft, and hop on top (don’t literally hop on top of his penis, it’s just an expression; but do get on top position-wise).If his penis is extra long, this can be a true sex-saver because it means the sleeve will squeeze the bottom three to six inches of his shaft while you stimulate the rest by being on top. He gets penile stimulation and you get comfort. Win-win.
    â€¢ Reach out. He might find it helpful to connect with The Large Penis Support Group ( www.lpsg.org ), where members provide support and tips (including sex tips) on message boards.
14. What to do if . . . he’s too small for the job
    Don’t despair! Here’s what to do:
    â€¢ Keep a towel nearby to dab your genitals and his when things get wet and lubricated. By drying them slightly, you can increase the friction to heighten sensitivity for both of you.
    â€¢ Insert a tampon into your vagina before sex. Let it soak up your vaginal wetness for about thirty seconds or a minute, then remove it and proceed as usual. By slightly drying your vagina, you will likely feel more sensation.
    â€¢ Expand your perspective. If you’ve never really gotten into oral sex, sex toy play, finger play, BDSM (bondage, domination, submission, masochism, etc.), or threesomes, this may be your chance. If you’re really into a smaller-sized guy and his penis size isn’t doing it for you, see what else brings you pleasure. And try to not feel as if you’re settling: there are many reasons we find ourselves looking into things we least expected for pleasure. After all, the only reason I ever first learned to orgasm during vaginal intercourse is because I was dating someone with rapid ejaculation. The oral sex was only so-so (through no fault of his own; I hadn’t put much effort into communicating with him what I liked), and I ended up learning to experience orgasm during intercourse in a desperate attempt to have orgasms when we had sex. I learned to do it quickly too! Although my partner’s penis size was larger than average, I see no reason why you couldn’t take a similarapproach to sex with a smaller than average-sized partner. If your partner’s small size is a downer, maybe you can make another part of sex (like oral sex) more awesome and size won’t matter as much.
    â€¢ Consider medical help. This isn’t for everyone, but a very small percent of men have what’s called micropenis and in this case a surgical procedure can help to elongate the penis. However, penile surgeries carry risks of complications, including the development of scar tissue and painful erections, so he’d be wise to check in with an experienced surgeon or two before deciding to go this route.
    â€¢ Check into penile extenders. Sex toys have grown increasingly sophisticated over