Savvy Girl, A Guide to Etiquette
mind post breakup:
BREAKUP DOS AND DON’TS
    DO have a social-media spring cleaning. Remove him from your social-media channels and your phone. Following his every move on Instagram or texting him after you’ve had five too many glasses of wine will likely result in additional upset.
    DO take care of yourself. Try a new activity, spend time with family and friends, and treat yourself to a spa day or two.
    [ BRITT: I met my husband not too long after a rough breakup. After getting dumped I knew I had two choices: (1) Throw myself a pity party and bring everyone else around me down, or (2) Dress up, show up, be positive, and start diving into new activities. Choice number two was the obvious one and it eventually led me to finding my husband.
    DON’T obsessively talk about your ex. This will prevent you from moving on, and eventually, your family and friends will burn out on your former-flame trash talk. Plus, talking negatively about him—or anyone, for that matter—won’t change the situation. Remember, positivity attracts positivity. You’re more likely to attract a new partner with a positive attitude than you are with a negative one.
    DON’T post pictures of yourself at dinner with Mr. Rebound. Or worse, don’t post a shot of you with one of your ex’s buddies. Rather than using social media as a public forum to make your ex jealous, use it to connect with loved ones who are currently a part of your life. You might even want to take a social-media hiatus for a couple of months. Let’s be honest, even if you have the best intentions not to stalk your ex, it can be downright impossible to stop yourself.
    DON’T be a masochist. If you know in your heart that you two aren’t right for each other, make it a clean break. Constantly or even occasionally calling him or asking him out to coffee to chat will only prolong your heartbreak, give you false hope, and keep you stuck in the past when you should be moving on and finding your true match.
    [ BRITT: I took a social-media hiatus for two months after my breakup, and it made a world of difference with moving on. Out of sight, out of mind. ]

[ BRITT: In life, there are phone calls we can’t wait to receive, ones we try to avoid, and ones we hope we never get. While working on this book, I got the kind everyone hopes they never get: news that a family member died in a tragic accident.
    When I got the news I dropped everything and rushed to be with family. The first twenty-four hours were rough. Coping with losing someone who is young and full of life is hard to wrap your head around, and this type of loss is the lowest emotional point I’ve ever experienced.
    But at this same all-time low in my life, I also had the chance to witness something incredible: the support from friends and loved ones during our darkest hours through phone calls, texts, cards, and showing up to just “be there” for us. This kind of love and support somehow made one of the worst times in my life a bit more bearable.
    One of the most memorable moments happened the day after the accident. My husband’s best friend called us and said, “So, I know you told me not to come, but I just landed at LAX and I am staying at a friend’s place. There is no pressure to have me over, but I want you to know that I’m standing by to help—even if all you want is a hug.” My husband and I broke down crying. That kind of help—the help that just shows up when you need it and without you having to ask for it—is incredibly powerful.
    Knowing how to be there for a friend when they lose someone they love is part of etiquette. Some of it is intuitive, like knowing to “be there” for them, while other parts can be harder to figure out, like knowing what to write in a sympathy card or how you can help in other small ways, like bringing over a lasagna, or taking their dog for a walk.
    The thing about friendship is that it starts with an initial introduction—where we get to showcase our “social

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