Free Top 10 Treats of Trusty Girlfriendship by Janet Grosshandler

Top 10 Treats of Trusty Girlfriendships
    How to Shore Up Your Life When It Wobbles
    Are you feeling like you’re stuck in a black pit
barely peering out the top and so, so bogged down in a huge
drama/trauma?
    Are you all-night-sleepless, tossing and turning
trying to figure out how to deal with a possible devastating change
in your life?
    Do you stare out over your morning coffee just
trying to get up the energy to face another day with the same
problems?
    Girlfriendships to the rescue!
    Pick up that phone, text a short SOS, or walk
down the block and connect with that girlfriend (you know who she
is) who will always help you pick up the pieces and soldier
on.
    Whether we are in our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, 50’s or
60+’s, we have those mega-girlfriends who define “There for you
whenever you need me!”
    These are the ones who:
    * Come running when we whimper.
    * Listen to every last hiccough at the end of our
tears.
    * Bleed their hearts as ours does.
    * Hold on when we are totally loosing it.
    When life hands us the “wobbles,” these
girlfriends are the glue, the cement who help put us back together
when we feel like we are shattered into a zillion pieces.
    When we have our trusty girlfriendships, there’s
a little bit of sunshine making its way through those yucky clouds
and we breathe easier knowing she’s right there when we need her
most.
    Trusty girlfriendships come in all types and
packages. There is no “one-size-fits-all.” But the treats we get
from these relationships put our heads back on straight, bandage up
our shredded hearts, and put a tiny ghost of a smile back on our
faces because we are not in this alone.
    We can make it through one more day.
The top 10 treats we get from our trusty
girlfriendships that we can always count on.
    1. Safe haven
    She is the comfort in the storms of life.
    Death of a loved one, a painful divorce, angry
argument with a child, being laid off from a much needed job- the
hurricane winds of life that blow us off course make us feel that
we’ll never get our life straightened out ever again. Who will
shelter us? She will.
    When Kath found out that her
just-about-ex-husband had hooked back up with his other ex-wife
during their battling divorce process, she was devastated.
    “That woman caused us so much grief about shared
custody, canceling weekends on us without any notice, money
draining- we were pulling out our hair most of the time to deal
with her. Then when I found out he had been back together with her
for a few months, it just gutted my last shred of sanity!
    When I heard the news, I left the party, drove
home like a crazy maniac and crumpled up on the floor of my foyer
screaming at the unfairness of it all.
    Little did I know that Elise had followed me
home and was there banging on my door yelling that she wasn’t going
to leave and I better let her in. I crawled over to the door to
unlock it and Elise dropped on the floor with me and held me as I
cried for hours.
    She just kept saying, ‘I’m here. It’s gonna be
OK. I’m here. It’s gonna be OK.’
    I might have gone totally out of my mind with
grief that night if Elise hadn’t been there to save me.”
    *
    2. Locked vault
    She is the secret keeper. She is THE one that
when we say, ”Don’t tell anyone this but…” we know she won’t.
    We need our secret-keeper girlfriend because
many times we need to tell someone. Whether it is a minor
secret or a major confidence, she is the vault where we can put our
secret and absolutely know it is safe.
    We can go back to our vault and take out our
secret to reexamine it, ponder over it or try to figure out the
real depth of meaning behind it, with or without her input. She
knows when to talk with us about it and when to keep quiet.
    Her heart is the soft home for our deepest
secrets.
    *
    3. Mirth machine
    She is so good for a cheer-up laugh when we need
it the most.
    OMG, we’re LOLing when we were just crying. She
can see the absurdity in the situation, can