Free 15 Things Highly Happy Wives and Girlfriends Understand About Men That You Don't by Nate Truman Page B
Authors: Nate Truman
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Imagine for one moment what you -- or any woman -- would say to the man they love if he said, "You're an idiot!" At the very least, you would storm out, cause a scene, and reiterate over and over how you will not be called names, and deserve his respect.
When the shoe is on the other foot, it is quite different. Simply because men will allow you to call them a name, without leaving or crying, does not mean they enjoy it or they certainly do not deserve it.
No one should suffer verbal abuse at another's whim, no matter how long or how short their relationship has been in place. It is hurtful and harmful behavior that two adults should know better than to enact upon one another, and it literally does not solve anything.
Next, to love and admire a man is to find yourself in a happy, nurturing relationship. Think for a moment how much you enjoy your man telling you how nice you look, or how beautiful you are.
Don't you think he would like to hear the same thing? Telling your man you love him, or love something that he does, is something all men love to hear.
They like to be told they are handsome, or the fact that you notice their haircut, new shirt or shaved face.
Men love attention, just like women do, so do not be afraid to shower him with praise from time to time. Women love for their men to dote on them, touch their hair or brush their arm when they are in public, so why not show your man the same admiration?
No one is asking you to make out at the dinner table like the plane is going down, but there is nothing wrong with asking for his hand from across the table after you order. There is also nothing wrong with letting him talk, or just enjoying his presence without interrupting or monopolizing the conversation.
Treat your man exactly how you would like to be treated, and he will thank you for it by returning the respect and admiration you deserve.
Another large bone of contention is that women do not like to feel as if they are being taken for granted. However, they never stop to think why would their man enjoy it?
Women absolutely harness a lot of the responsibilities in the home, mostly by default. If it is true that men do not take the initiative to say, "Thank you for a clean home, laundry, children, etc." maybe women should think about the last time they said, "Thank you for picking up the kids, cutting the grass, shoveling the driveway, etc."
Relationships are a two way street, and if you would like to be applauded for your efforts, the least you can do is applaud him for his.
At the very least, try and notice when your man does something right in your eyes (this is few and far between for some women), or applaud his efforts at work, school or in the community.
Every man needs someone to champion his efforts, and if you are not going to be that person, do not be surprised when he finds someone else who will. Just like you, men resent those who take without giving.
They have needs, desires and affections that must be fulfilled, and if you love him like you say you do, you will start paying attention to those requirements, instead of nagging him to empty the dishwasher.
Women tend to think that when men do something that falls within their "duties" that they are just doing what they are supposed to be doing, and there is no reward for such behavior.
Why is it is then that women feel like they are being taken advantage of if men do not acknowledge their "duties". Double standards lead to arguments, and dissolving them is a great way to acknowledge exactly how much each of you contribute to the relationship.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
• If you and your man are hanging out, and you take a phone call from a friend and talk for an hour, do not expect the “hang-out” time to pick right back up when you’re done. He has every right to go and start doing something else if you’re going to blow him off for an hour.
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Imagine for one moment what you -- or any woman -- would say to the man they love if he said, "You're an idiot!" At the very least, you would storm out, cause a scene, and reiterate over and over how you will not be called names, and deserve his respect.
When the shoe is on the other foot, it is quite different. Simply because men will allow you to call them a name, without leaving or crying, does not mean they enjoy it or they certainly do not deserve it.
No one should suffer verbal abuse at another's whim, no matter how long or how short their relationship has been in place. It is hurtful and harmful behavior that two adults should know better than to enact upon one another, and it literally does not solve anything.
Next, to love and admire a man is to find yourself in a happy, nurturing relationship. Think for a moment how much you enjoy your man telling you how nice you look, or how beautiful you are.
Don't you think he would like to hear the same thing? Telling your man you love him, or love something that he does, is something all men love to hear.
They like to be told they are handsome, or the fact that you notice their haircut, new shirt or shaved face.
Men love attention, just like women do, so do not be afraid to shower him with praise from time to time. Women love for their men to dote on them, touch their hair or brush their arm when they are in public, so why not show your man the same admiration?
No one is asking you to make out at the dinner table like the plane is going down, but there is nothing wrong with asking for his hand from across the table after you order. There is also nothing wrong with letting him talk, or just enjoying his presence without interrupting or monopolizing the conversation.
Treat your man exactly how you would like to be treated, and he will thank you for it by returning the respect and admiration you deserve.
Another large bone of contention is that women do not like to feel as if they are being taken for granted. However, they never stop to think why would their man enjoy it?
Women absolutely harness a lot of the responsibilities in the home, mostly by default. If it is true that men do not take the initiative to say, "Thank you for a clean home, laundry, children, etc." maybe women should think about the last time they said, "Thank you for picking up the kids, cutting the grass, shoveling the driveway, etc."
Relationships are a two way street, and if you would like to be applauded for your efforts, the least you can do is applaud him for his.
At the very least, try and notice when your man does something right in your eyes (this is few and far between for some women), or applaud his efforts at work, school or in the community.
Every man needs someone to champion his efforts, and if you are not going to be that person, do not be surprised when he finds someone else who will. Just like you, men resent those who take without giving.
They have needs, desires and affections that must be fulfilled, and if you love him like you say you do, you will start paying attention to those requirements, instead of nagging him to empty the dishwasher.
Women tend to think that when men do something that falls within their "duties" that they are just doing what they are supposed to be doing, and there is no reward for such behavior.
Why is it is then that women feel like they are being taken advantage of if men do not acknowledge their "duties". Double standards lead to arguments, and dissolving them is a great way to acknowledge exactly how much each of you contribute to the relationship.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
• If you and your man are hanging out, and you take a phone call from a friend and talk for an hour, do not expect the “hang-out” time to pick right back up when you’re done. He has every right to go and start doing something else if you’re going to blow him off for an hour.
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