Free Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual by Christina Abernathy Page B

few simple guidelines, which I believe constitute the basis for good manners and a good reputation (and, should it not be clear, from the discussion above, let me say that these principles apply no less to dominants than to submissives):

    • Return all of the dominant's property to her. This may include, but is not limited to, collars; tokens of ownership not explicitly given to the slave (name tags or other jewelry); house and car keys; any legal documents (although the slave should certainly retain a copy of the contract itself); credit cards or checks issued in the dominant's name; any items borrowed from the dominant, such as clothing, or borrowed in the dominant's name, such as rented video tapes, library books, and the like. Needless to say, any fees incurred due to the submissive's neglect to return borrowed items should be promptly paid by the submissive.
    • Refrain from denigrating the dominant to mutual friends or in public. Unless you feel strongly that the dominant is a genuine menace to public safety - in which case you might as well speak to the police as to your friends - spreading malicious gossip in the community will only damage your own reputation. I do not wish to imply that a slave should not seek solace from his friends, and it is likely that some of these friends will also be acquainted with the dominant. (Here is an important reason for a submissive to cultivate friendships outside the BDSM community and outside his D/S
    relationship.) Still, it is unfair to expect mutual friends to take your side, or to take sides at all. Be as respectful of the dominant's privacy as you would expect him to be of yours.

    • Give yourself sufficient time to heal from any emotional wounds you may have suffered in the relationship. Do not jump into another D/S relationship too quickly. It will typically take anywhere from one year to three for a person to work through the pain of a failed relationship. Resist the urge to fall at the feet of the next dominant who waves a collar in your direction. By all means, go out, socialize, play if you will, but if you attempt another relationship too quickly, you are likely to deliver damaged goods to the new dominant and doing yourself a great disservice.