asked. âHow can you be so daring about everything?â
Bill shrugged. âIâm not so brave.â
âYouâre just trying to make me feel better.â
âIâve never hit on a woman sober.â
âWhat?â
âIâm thirty-three years old and donât have the stones to ask a woman out unless Iâm drunk,â he said. âSo you see? Weâre all afraid of something.â
âExcept me.â I chuckled. âIâm afraid of everything.â
Billâs face darkened. âWhatâs happened to you, Hancock?â
âWhat do you mean?â
âWhen you were our intern, youâd come into the office every morning and entertain us with a new story about some wild thing youâd done the night before. Like the time you were on your way home and some girl on the subway started talking smack to you? But you talked smack right back and held your ground. Even when she pulled out a knife!â
âWell, that was totally stupid.â
âWhere is that Noelle?â he asked impatiently. âBecause I want her back. This self-deprecating shtick youâve been working for the last few years is getting really old.â
I was surprisingly stung by his words. Iâd changed. Youâd think that because I already suspected this to be true, his confirmation wouldnât be that painful to hear. But thereâs still hope within suspicion, a chance that your problem exists only in your imagination. To have it confirmed and articulated by someone else meant it was real.
For a long time, I stared out at the ocean. It made me think of Matt. Since he was a child Matt had spent every summer at his parentsâ beach house in the Hamptons, frolicking through these rough Atlantic waters. The first time Matt coaxed me into the water was also the last time. I was used to the Gulf of Mexico, where the waves donât go over two feet unless thereâs a hurricane. But Atlantic waves attack in a group assault, knocking down unsuspecting victims for a thorough beating. The effect is similar to being mugged. And when you finally stagger to your feet, youâll often find yourself without a bathing suit bottom. Over and over, I was knocked down, rolled, and came up sputtering.
âYou have to dive under the wave,â Matt instructed. âLike the surfers do.â
âI was under the wave, Matt. I was under about eight of them simultaneously, in fact.â
As I was saying this, another wave plowed into me, dragging me across a bed of crushed seashells. When I stood up, I had two bloody knees. I promptly threw my hands in the air in a leave-taking gesture.
âAnd thatâs it for me!â I told the waves. âThanks so much! You guys have been great.â
âAwww, donât leave,â Matt begged.
Making my way toward shore, I called out, âIâm going to lie in the sun with the normal people who prefer to kill themselves slowly.â
âHeâs right, you know,â Dr. Bob said later when I told him the story. âThe problem is in your approach, bracing yourself and trying to hold your ground where the waves are strongest. When you dive under the wave, it rolls over you, and you come up on the other side. Eventually youâre out there happily bobbing up and down, moving with the waves instead of against them. The same thing is true for scary situations.â Dr. Bob inched forward in his chair, like he was about to tell me something vital. âRather than tensing up and trying to stand your ground when the scary situations come at you, you should dive into them. Roll with them rather than struggle against them. Itâs rough at first, but once you put yourself out there, itâs much easier to ride the ups and downs. And itâs far more enjoyable than spending your life sitting on the beach and watching.â
I thought about Dr. Bobâs wave metaphor as our boat pulled toward the dock.