youâll need to let go and move on.â
Does asking my Focus Object out on a bike riding excursion count as moving on? Didnât think so.
PFE
February 8, afternoon
Topic: Analysis of how Iâm focusing on ⦠focusing.
â I think Iâve figured out a way to maintain emotional distance from my Focus Object, yet still further my research.
â I will still write about Seanâs head, but now Iâm going to get INSIDE it.
â Iâve set the goal of asking him five questions on our bike ride.
â Itâs arbitrary, but it feels like the next logical step (if any of this can be considered logical).
Itâs warm out for a Pennsylvania winter. So warm, I slip off my sweater and go outside in nothing but a long-sleeved shirt and jeans. Dirty patches of snow melt into the yellow grass. The air smells overly sweet, like a car air freshener thatâs just been unwrapped. I kick a rock across the cracked driveway, watching it bounce until it hits the garage door. The sunlight glints on the basketball hoop.
Itâs been almost two monthsâan eternityâsince I last played. Basketball used to be scheduled in right between homework and my self-allotted hour of TV. It isnât in my schedule anymore. I donât have a schedule anymore.
I grab a basketball out of the garage and bounce it once or twice against the concrete. The smell of the rubber envelops me like teammates in a time-out huddle. I close my eyes and shoot the ball into a perfect arch. I donât have to open them to know the ball has gone in. The chains cheer.
A few more shots canât hurt. Dad and I used to shoot every Thursday, until he got MS. Then our shooting became more sporadic, based on how he was feeling, I suppose, not that I knew that at the time. I think of the failed baskets I witnessed from my window that day. Even though his playing isnât always that weak, Dad is never going to fully get his game back. One more relapse, and he may lose his shot completely. Although, seriously, thatâs the least of his worries.
Now Iâm pumping the ball harder, maneuvering around invisible opponents. The crowd in my head roars louder with each fake out, each shot. Iâm about to win the one-person championship when someone coughs. The applause ends. I drop the ball. My dad is standing on the walkway, his famous grin overtaking his face.
âDonât stop now, sunshine. I think youâre about to win the game.â
âOh. Hi.â
His smile doesnât fade. Heâs so elated with his discovery, at my momentary athletic relapse, that his face is close to exploding. His hope is too much for me. âCan I shoot a few with you?â he asks.
I fix him with a stare cold enough to melt the warmth of his smile. I want to freeze him there, so he canât move. So he canât feel. âNo. You canât.â
âWhy not?â He shrugs. âThink Iâll take you?â
No, I meanâyou canât. This isnât wheelchair basketball. I laugh at my own cruelty. It worries me, this monster inside. The monster who would hurt someone already feeling so much pain. I choke on my laugh, trying to stop the familiar rise of emotion from surfacing. The truth, I know, is that itâs not my dad Iâm really mad at. Iâm mad at his disease.
And itâs not anger. Itâs fear.
âSorry. Gotta go,â I say, brushing past him and into the house. Into the bathroom, to wash the smell of rediscovery off my hands. To wash the tears of self-loathing off my face.
ELEVEN
Bike ride with Sean is today. My bike still has neon spokes and I havenât been on it in a year. Not to worry. After all, riding a bike is like ⦠riding a bike. You get on and go. A much bigger problem is clothes. I know hard-core cyclists wear tight clothes, but I donât do spandex. The devil wears spandex. And I doubt the devilâs butt is as big as mine. Jac even had me