coming into the shop? Laura and I have just had a phone call in which I suggested that sheâd fucked up my life and, for the duration of the call, I believed it. But nowâand I can do this with no trace of bemusement or self-dissatisfactionâIâm worrying about what to wear, and whether I look better stubbly or clean-shaven, and about what music I should play in the shop today.
Sometimes it seems as though the only way a man can judge his own niceness, his own decency, is by looking at his relationships with womenâor rather, with prospective or current sexual partners. Itâs easy enough to be nice to your mates. You can buy them a drink, make them a tape, ring them up to see if theyâre OKâ¦there are any number of quick and painless methods of turning yourself into a Good Bloke. When it comes to girlfriends, though, itâs much trickier to be consistently honorable. One moment youâre ticking along, cleaning the toilet bowl, and expressing your feelings and doing all the other things that a modern chap is supposed to do; the next, youâre manipulating and sulking and double-dealing and fibbing with the best of them. I canât work it out.
I phone Liz early afternoon. Sheâs nice to me. She says how sorry she is, what a good couple she thought we made, that I have done Laura good, given her a center, brought her out of herself, allowed her to have fun, turned her into a nicer, calmer, more relaxed person, given her an interest in something other than work. Liz doesnât use these words, as suchâIâm interpreting. But this is what she means, I think, when she says we made a good couple. She asks how I am, and whether Iâm looking after myself; she tells me that she doesnât think much of this Ian guy. We arrange to meet for a drink sometime next week. I hang up.
Which fucking Ian guy?
Marie comes into the shop shortly afterward. All three of us are there. Iâm playing her tape, and when I see her walk in I try to turn it off before she notices, but Iâm not quick enough, so I end up turning it off just as she begins to say something about it, and then turning it back on again, then blushing. She laughs. I go to the stockroom and donât come out. Barry and Dick sell her seventy quidâs worth of cassettes.
Which fucking Ian guy?
Barry explodes into the stockroom. âWeâre only on the guest list for Marieâs gig at the White Lion, thatâs all. All three of us.â
In the last half-hour, I have humiliated myself in front of somebody Iâm interested in, and found out, I think, that my ex was having an affair. I donât want to know about the guest list at the White Lion.
âThatâs really, really great, Barry. The guest list at the White Lion! All weâve got to do is get to Putney and back and weâve saved ourselves a fiver each. What it is to have influential friends, eh?â
âWe can go in your car.â
âItâs not my car, is it? Itâs Lauraâs. Lauraâs got it. So weâre two hours on the tube, or we get a minicab, whichâll cost us, ooh, a fiver each. Fucking great.â
Barry gives a what-can-you-do-with-this-guy shrug and walks out. I feel bad, but I donât say anything to him.
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I donât know anybody called Ian. Laura doesnât know anybody called Ian. Weâve been together three years and Iâve never heard her mention an Ian. Thereâs no Ian at her office. She hasnât got any friends called Ian, and she hasnât got any girlfriends with boyfriends called Ian. I wonât say that she has never met anyone called Ian in the whole of her lifeâthere must have been one at college, although she went to an all-girls schoolâbut I am almost certain that since 1989 she has been living in an Ianless universe.
And this certitude, this Ian-atheism, lasts until I get home. On the windowsill where we put the post, just
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