at all. I think thatâs a bit extreme. But donât expect too much change.â
Pat frowned. Surely people did change. They changed as they matured. She remembered herself at fourteen. She was a different person now. âPeople grow up, though,â she said. âThey change as they grow up. We all do.â
Domenica waved a hand in the air. âOh, we all grow up. But once the personality is formed, I donât think that you get a great deal of change. Bruce is a narcissist, as weâve all agreed. Do you see him becoming something different? Can you imagine him not looking in mirrors and worrying about his hair? Can you imagine him thinking that people donât fancy him? I canât. Not for the moment.â She put her glass down on the table and looked at Pat. âHow old is Bruce, by the way?â
âHeâs twenty-five,â said Pat. âOr just twenty-six. Somewhere around there.â
Domenica looked thoughtful. âWell, thatâs rather interesting. Men are slower, you know. They mature rather later than we do. We get there in our early twenties, but they take rather longer than that. Indeed, I believe that thereâs a school of psychology that holds that men are not fully responsible until they reach the age of twenty-eight.â
Pat thought this was rather late. And what did it mean to say that men were not fully responsible until that age? Could they not be blamed for what they did? âIsnât that a bit late?â she asked. âI thought that we were held responsible fromâ¦â From what age were we held responsible? Was it sixteen? Or eighteen? Young people ended up in court, did they not, and were held to account for what they had done? But at what age did all that start?
Domenica noticed Patâs surprise. âTwenty-eight does seem a bit late,â she said. âBut thereâs at least something to it. If you look at the crime figures they seem to bear this out. Young men commit crimesâones that get noticedâbetween seventeen and twenty-four, twenty-five. Then they stop.â She thought for a moment and smiled at some recollection. âI knew a fiscal,â she went on. âHe spent his time prosecuting young men up in Dunfermline. Day in, day out. The same things. Assault. Theft. So on. And he said that he saw the same people, from the same families, all the time. Then he said something very funny, which I shall always remember. He said that the fiscals saw the same young men regularly between the age of seventeen and twenty-six, and then the next time they saw them was when they were forty-five and they had hit somebody at their daughterâs wedding! What a comment!â
âBut probably true?â
âUndoubtedly true,â agreed Domenica. âOn two counts. Weddings can be violent affairs, and everything runs in families. Youâve heard me on genetic determinism before, havenât you? But thatâs another topic. Letâs get back to excuses, and change, and Bruce. If you think that twenty-eight is a bit late for responsibilityâtrue responsibilityâto appear, then what would you say to forty?â
âVery late.â
Domenica laughed. âYes, maybe. But again, if you ask people to describe how theyâve behaved over the years, you will often find that they say theyâve looked at it very differently, according to the stage of life that theyâre at. Here I am, for example, sitting here with all the wisdom of my sixty yearsâwhat a thought, sixty!âand I can definitely see how Iâve looked at things differently after forty. Iâm less tolerant of bad behaviour, I think, than I used to be. And why do you think that is?â
Pat shrugged. âYou get a bit more set in your ways? You become more judgmental?â
âAnd what is wrong with being judgmental?â Domenica asked indignantly. âIt drives me mad to hear people say: