behavior issues (not to mention managing the expectations of the parents who want to make their job yours). Sometimes you have a tough kid who triggers everyone else; sometimes there are clusters of kids who hijack a room. Theyâre so impressionable that they can easily act on each other, a ceaseless game of marbles. So itâs marbles for them but chess for me, as I figure out what to do about it all. Generally, I like that.
But not today.
Why isnât he texting me?
I hadnât realized it would be worse for me once the kids got calm. Their cacophony was drowning out some of the noise in my head.
Itâs not that I think heâs doing anything wrong. Sheâs a kid herself. A pregnant kid. Pregnant with our kid, mine and Gabeâs. Itâs that I donât like to be ignored, and Gabe knows that better than anyone.
âIâm going to turn the lights back on,â I announce, âand I want you all to remember the way you feel right now. The calm. Hold on to that, okay? Weâre going back to our small groups and you need to work . Five, four, three, two, one.â
Itâs amazing how quickly our eyes adjust to the darkness and how glaring the light can seem. The kids blink and look around. For a second, itâs like theyâve never seen the room before. I recently decorated for spring, with lots of blooming and budding. In the corner is our unit on metamorphosis: the Eric Carle type, not Franz Kafkaâs. The students have painted pictures of their interpretation of The Very Hungry Caterpillar . We have 3-D replicas of the various stages of development from caterpillar to butterfly. There are little plastic cocoons that the kids can hold in their hands and, in more rambunctious moments, chuck at one another. We have a field trip planned to see butterflies.
WTF, Gabe?
My students are now doing what theyâre supposed to, and I sit back down at my desk. I scan the room, wondering which of these kids will look most like my kid and what his temperament will be. Iâm a big believer in temperament. I donât think anyone who works with kids on a regular basis can deny it. Iâm hoping for one whoâs outspoken yet sweet, like Michaela; I hope he looks like Cody, because Cody is a dead ringer for Gabe.
Our babyâs almost here. If I close my eyes, I can so easily imagine the weight of him in my arms, my lips grazing his forehead. Iâll never get to breast-feed, of course, and that pains me. But Leah wonât breast-feed either. Not on my watch.
My fingers itch to text again, but thereâs no point. Iâm sure he saw the last one. Another would only look desperate, and desperation does not increase oneâs attractiveness. Heâs just in the middle of something, thatâs all.
What could he possibly be in the middle of? Itâs not even noon. They wouldnât have gone to see a movie; theyâre out sightseeing. Sightseeing should make someone eminently available.
The next half hour passes in a vacillating haze of baby fantasies and agitation over Gabeâs failure to respond. The kids are remarkably self-contained. Not a single argument, or a raised hand, or a âMrs. T . . .â Once youâre inessential, you realize how much you want to be needed.
âLunchtime, Mrs. T.â Angie points at the hands of the clock. She sounds proud. It takes her a lot longer than the other kids to pick up skills and once she does, she likes to demonstrate them. With her red hair and off-center pigtails, sheâs got a certain Pippi Longstocking quality. Itâs hard not to love Angie.
I smile at her. âYouâre right, Angie. It is.â
That means lunch for me, too, though my stomach says otherwise. After I make sure the kids are safely to the cafeteria, I head for the break room, phone firmly in hand.
The break room is windowless, with each wall painted a differentcolor (green, blue, yellow, red). Itâs like eating
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