Free Put What Where? by John Naish

Kellogg, Plain Facts for Old and Young (1877)
    Bear this fact in mind, young man. Curb your passions. Control your propensities, and years hence you will look back upon your conduct with a satisfaction which will increase your self-respect. The brutal conduct of husbands, even on the first night of marriage, not infrequently entails upon their wives a lifetime of suffering. Such individuals are quite unworthy the name of men. They are fit only to be classed with the rakes who violate defenseless virgins, and treat women as though they were made for no other purpose than the gratification of the beastly propensities of brutal men.
    Steer clear of spice and sleep on the floor
    Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana (3rd century), translated by Sir Richard Burton and F.F. Arbuthnot (1883)
    For the first three days after marriage, the girl and her husband should sleep on the floor, abstain from sexual pleasures, and eat their food without seasoning.
    Some say that the husband should play it cool and not speak to her for three days, but others believe that the girl may be discouraged by seeing him spiritless like a pillar, and, becoming dejected, she may begin to despise him as a eunuch.
    For the next seven days they should bathe amidst the sounds of auspicious musical instruments, should decorate themselves, dine together, and welcome their relatives as well as to those who may have come to witness their marriage.
    On the night of the tenth day the man should begin in a secluded place with soft, winning words, and thus create confidence in the girl. But he should abstain at first from sexual pleasures.
    Women, being of a tender nature, want tender beginnings, and when they are forcibly approached by men with whom they are but slightly acquainted, they sometimes suddenly become haters of sexual connection, and sometimes even haters of the male sex.
    Do give her your hand ...
    Helena Wright, The Sex Factor in Marriage (1930)
    In the first days of marriage ... an orgasm induced by the husband’s hand, and entirely by way of clitoris sensation, may be a kind and gentle way of introducing a timid and perhaps frightened girl to a happy sex life.
    Horrid shock for the bride
    Ida Craddock, The Wedding Night (1900)
    There is a wrong way and there is a right way to pass the wedding night. In the majority of cases, no genital union at all should be attempted, or even suggested, upon that night. To the average young girl, virtuously brought up, the experience of sharing her bedroom with a man is sufficient of a shock to her previous maidenly habits, without adding to her nervousness by insisting upon the close intimacies of genital contact.
    And, incredible as it may sound to the average man, she is usually altogether without the sexual experience which every boy acquires in his dream-life. The average, typical girl does not have erotic dreams. In many cases, too, through the prudishness of parents – a prudishness which is positively criminal – she is not even told beforehand that genital union will be required of her.
    If you will first thoroughly satisfy the primal passion of the woman, which is affectional andmaternal (for the typical woman mothers the man she loves), and if you will kiss and caress her in a gentle, delicate and reverent way, especially at the throat and bosom, you will find that, little by little (perhaps not the first night nor the second night, but eventually, as she grows accustomed to the strangeness of the intimacy), you will, by reflex action from the bosom to the genitals, successfully arouse within her a vague desire for the entwining of the lower limbs, with ever closer and closer contact, until you melt into one another’s embrace at the genitals in a perfectly natural and wholesome fashion.
    As to the clitoris, this should be simply saluted, at most, in passing, and afterwards ignored as far as possible; for the reason that it is a rudimentary male organ, and an orgasm aroused there evokes a rudimentary male magnetism