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a garage sale. He was unaware that his attitude diminished her belief in his commitment to her because she knew he could afford to buy something better for her. Glen also believed that the regular purchase of flowers for a woman was a waste of money because flowers die in a few days. To his logical male mind, a potted plant made much more sense because it was more permanent. So he bought her a pottedplant—a rose. “The flower of love,” he announced. In fact, he told Leanne she could take cuttings from it and sell them for money. Hey, she could even go into the flower business! To Leanne’s female mind, however, when a bunch of flowers dies, it presents a new opportunity for Glen to buy another bunch and to again demonstrate his commitment to her. Yesterday, Glen’s proctologist removed the rose from Glen’s rear end, and he should be back on his feet in a few days
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    To the logical male mind, a potted plant is a better gift than a bunch of roses, and so this man sleeps alone .
     
     
    Because an act of love signals commitment of resources, it is placed high on women’s lists everywhere. Almost all studies of the importance of love as a prerequisite to a long-term relationship show that worldwide 80 to 90% of women say they would need love for marriage or a permanent relationship. One study by Sue Sprecher, coauthor of
The Handbook of Sexuality in Close Relationships
, and her colleagues showed that 89% of American women said they would not marry someone they didn’t love—11% would—whereas 41% of Russian women said they
would
marry someone they didn’t love. The Russian result is largely because there is a shortage of available men in Russia, and because of the wider choice of women, these men are therefore less likely to want to make a commitment. In Kiev, in the Ukraine, we found that the average life expectancy for men in 2009 is fifty-six years, and for every twenty-year-old male, there are four available females. Tickets to Kiev can be purchased from your local travel agent, gentlemen.
    So our advice for men: You can skimp on many things in life but
never
skimp on any important item of jewelry you give to a woman. If you gave a woman a small ring at the start of yourrelationship because money was tight, upgrade it as soon as possible to a more impressive one. Whether you like it or not, it can affect your love life and other women will use it to judge your commitment. We found that the only women who will argue with what is written here are women whose men have given them cheap or microscopic jewelry and have refused to upgrade it.

The Last Ten Things a Woman Would Ever Say
     
Could our relationship be more physical? I’m tired of just being friends.
Go ahead and leave the seat up. I love the feel of cold, wet porcelain.
I think hairy butts are really sexy.
Wow, get a whiff of that one! Pull my finger again!
Please don’t throw that old T-shirt away. The holes in the armpits are just too cute.
This diamond is much too big! And by the way, I’ve got enough shoes!
Take that block of chocolate away!
I don’t care if it’s on sale: $500 is too much to pay for a designer dress!
Does this make my butt look too small?
I’m going out for a while. Why don’t you phone your ex?

Seven Simple Things Women Find Attractive In Men
     
    The following seven points are also on women’s list of criteria for a man’s attractiveness and are cues to a man’s ability to gather resources. They are not in any particular order here, but one thing is for sure: Women are attracted to men who can and will do these things.
1. Women are attracted to men who make them laugh
     
    A man having a sense of humor sits at or near the top of almost every survey on what is attractive to women and is regularly mentioned in the personal ads. When a woman laughs, her brain instructs her body to release endorphins—a chemical with a structure similar to morphine—which give her that warm, tingling feeling. Endorphins are one of the