Free Why Men Want Sex and Women Need Love by Barbara Pease

please. This is not to say that a coupling between an older woman and a younger man can’t last—some do—but most don’t.
    Love Rule for Men No. 17
     
You must show heartfelt concern and public sadness over the death of your girlfriend’s cat even if it was you who secretly set it on fire and threw it into a ceiling fan.
     
    Conversely, the famous union of Anna-Nicole Smith and her eighty-seven-year-old billionaire husband made sense—he was in it for the glamour and sex with a busty young blonde, and she was in it for the power, prestige, and resources. He told her he loved her, and he showed kindness and pledged fidelity by marrying her. It’s unlikely she would have married an eighty-seven-year-old man on a government pension who lived in a nursing home. If he had few resources, he would most likelyonly have married an eighty-seven-year-old female pensioner and that would be mainly for company. Interestingly, all studies demonstrate that men everywhere show little preference for a woman’s economic status, regardless of how many resources they have personally. In other words, the CEO of a huge corporation is likely to be attracted to the same woman that the male junior clerk in the company is attracted to. Think of Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky.
4. Commitment
     
    A man who promises commitment pledges he will continue to provide resources. Women everywhere accuse men of being commitmentphobes and love escapees. When you consider what commitment means from an ancestral woman’s viewpoint, it makes perfect sense. A sexual liaison for her would involve a commitment for ten to fifteen years to carry and raise a child to self-sufficiency. For a man, however, the same encounter would cost only a small amount of time—maybe just a few minutes—and then he’d be off to his next venture. Because a man is wired to spread his genes as often and widely as possible, many men fear commitment to one woman and dread the idea of eternal monogamy, and most men understand that commitment means sharing their resources.
    “I want him to show commitment” is the cry of women everywhere. It takes nine months for a woman to bear a child and at least another five years to raise the child to a minimum level of self-sufficiency for basic survival. Compare this to a baby chimpanzee, which can survive alone after only six weeks of life. As a result, women’s brains became hardwired to search for males who will commit to stay around for a minimum period of six years to participate in the provision of food and protection for them and their offspring. On a subconscious level, men and women recognize this phenomenon and it is often called “the seven-year itch.” It is detrimental to infant survival for a woman to couple with a male who makesher pregnant and leaves or offers no support, so women became hardwired to closely scrutinize what any male can offer to raising the next generation. To most women, marriage is still seen as the ultimate indication a man can give that he intends to stick around. Being the childbearer, a woman makes a total commitment to the creation and nurturing of the next generation, and she wants a male who will commit to the same. This is why trust is such a critical factor to women in a relationship. From a biological standpoint, a woman doesn’t want a male to be involved in the procreation and rearing of another woman’s offspring but to dedicate his efforts solely to her offspring. This is why being monogamous is a prerequisite in a relationship for nearly all women in contemporary societies. When a woman’s trust is broken, it can be difficult to repair the relationship, and women who suffer several broken relationships can become cynical about whether any man can be trusted.
    Many young women now use the word “loyalty” in place of “monogamy.”
     
     
    It’s much easier today to get information on a man’s current or possible resources, but if he’s not prepared to commit them to a woman