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companies all taking positions on whether or not female sexuality can (or should) be aided by the little blue pill.
    Viagra will not revolutionize your orgasms. It may offer you pleasure—and that, in itself, is worth a lot, especially to a woman who may not have been experiencing much between the sheets lately.
    Make sure to consult with a health-care provider—one who’s actually seen you (not just processed your Internet order)—to find out if such medications are safe for you.

    How Do You Come?
I continue to have better orgasms as I get older. In my 20s, I rarely had a vaginal orgasm, and my clitoral orgasms were fine, but not as yummy as now.
    How do you reach orgasm? Women come from all sorts of stimulation. Most women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm—from vibrators, fingers, tongues, or surfaces to rub up against.
    Many women find nothing sends them into orbit quite like a tongue and lips licking, sucking, and nibbling on their clit. For others, oral sex is just not intense enough to bring them to orgasm.
The tried-and-true tongue-to-clit method is still the only thing besides my Hitachi Magic Wand that never fails to bring me to orgasm.
    Many women come from penetration—either vaginal or anal—without any clitoral stimulation at all.
The first time I came with a partner, it was a vaginal orgasm—my girlfriend was finger-fucking me. That’s still how I come best, and I can have many, many orgasms in a row that way.
    Others find their orgasms are intensified when clitoral stimulation is combined with penetration, either vaginal or anal.
I don’t come without clitoral stimulation. But when vaginal penetration is added, it’s like a deeper experience; it reaches into my insides and clenches me with intense pleasure.
    Different kinds of stimulation produce difference experiences of orgasm. Some women make clear distinctions between the orgasms they experience from clitoral stimulation versus penetration.
Vaginal orgasms feel as if they happen deeper in my body; they feel more like contractions. A clitoral orgasm is sharper, more like an intense tingling that spreads over my body. I’m multiorgasmic, and I need one of each to feel really satisfied.
    Some women reach orgasm with sufficient attention to their nipples. Others come from fantasy and mental stimulation. Tantra practitioners move erotic energy through their bodies, experiencing energy or whole-body orgasms.
I have very intense concentration and my mind becomes my orgasm. I can ride it for a fairly long time.
    Some women come from pain and other intense sensations of S/M play—and some tops are known to come simply from administering to their bottoms.
My favorite way to come is from caning someone. We don’t need any other contact but the cane with her ass, to make me come—if I can hurt her enough. I come from doing, rather than from being done.
 
I can come from pain. From clitoral stimulation. From hard fucking or fisting. I can come just from having my nipples pinched hard. I can come from sufficient mental stimulation with no body contact.

    Getting Her Off
I love orchestrating someone else’s orgasm.
    Rarely do sex guides give sufficient attention to the pleasures of facilitating another’s orgasm. Discussions of orgasm are typically about getting them, not giving them. Yet getting a partner off is central to lesbian sex. It’s thrilling to feel a woman come in your mouth, to find yourself gripped between her powerful thighs, or to feel her vaginal contractions clamp down on your hand.
It is CRUCIAL that my mate has an orgasm—my jaw can lock up and I won’t stop until I feel her body pop and her moans quicken and muffle and she tries to run away from me.
    Taking turns pleasuring one another is a wonderful way to enjoy sex. But not all women have reciprocity as their goal. What if your partner doesn’t want to have an orgasm? Does that mean she identifies as a “stone butch”? Maybe. Maybe not. Why not ask her? You