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theory is that she felt she deserved to be spanked. She certainly worked at being a bitch, in the hope that I would punish her physically, but sometimes I was really sadistic and punished her by doing nothing, which drove her nuts.
“You don’t appreciate a lot of stuff in school until you get older. Little things, like being spanked every day by a middle-aged women. Stuff you pay good money for later in life.”
—Elmo Phillips
    A few years ago, the Swiss Institute of Psychological Research examined why student test scores had fallen in recent years, and came up with the surprising suggestion that the lower scores may be related to the banning of corporal punishment. The brain may be connected to the behind, it seems. The study of 150 college student volunteers found that following some swats on their backside, their ability to remember facts increased by an average of 38%.
    Just because you like to paddle her ass, it doesn’t make you a sadist. Wanting to experience being spanked doesn’t make you a masochist, either.
    For many years I had an ardent fan, a young woman from New York City, who followed me around the world. Sarah considered herself my total slave, and there was nothing she liked better than a fine spanking or whipping. At first I hesitated because I couldn’t bear to hurt such a charming young woman. But I finally gave in to her constant begging, and it got so I really enjoyed giving it to her to whatever degree she wanted it. Usually, I hit her so that her buttocks turn red. As I hit her, I swore in German or Dutch. Sometimes, while her ass was still red, she would hand me a camera, and I would take pictures of her smarting backside. Because I enjoyed her company and enjoyed pleasing her, does that make me a sadist? I think not. Remember, do what makes you and your lover happy. If you enjoy what you’re doing, then it’s natural.
    If you are going to spank your mate, make sure you have some clue about what you are doing. It doesn’t matter if you use a ping pong paddle, a wooden spoon, or your hand. The erogenous zone of the bottom (in regard to spanking) is where the butt meets the top of the legs and the closer to the private parts, the better. Spanking of the vagina is fairly popular, as well. One hard stroke, two soft, one hard, three soft—establishing a rhythm is good. Remember to read her and that the objective is to dance at her Resilient Edge of Resistance. Touching in between strokes is also good. Play and squeeze to your (and her) heart’s desire. The touching is a soft contrast to the beating and the results will likely make your playmate very wet.

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EXPERIMENT WITH HARMLESS SENSORY DEPRIVATION

Lots of folks blindfold their mates during sex, but perhaps if you have a long stretch of time to play, you should step it up a notch. I had no idea how erotic it could be until I had an operation and lost my eyesight for forty-eight hours. It was scary. My boyfriend collected me from the clinic after the operation and, with my eyes bandaged, led me the two blocks back to the car.
    The traffic seemed twice as strident as usual, and the noise made by other people on the sidewalk, the footsteps, and snatches of shouted conversation were terrifyingly loud. I had an unreasonable fear of being attacked, even though I was leaning on the strong arm of my man.
    When we got home, the house was not quite as I remembered it, some distances seemed shorter and others longer, and there were far more projections and steps up and down in dangerous and unexpected places than I had ever realized. My lover prepared a wonderful meal, and although he told me afterward that his thinking was to serve me food that could be shoveled in with a spoon, it was the flavor I remember. Later, still bandaged and lightly drugged with painkillers, we made love, and the texture of his skin, the feel of his hard but invisible cock under my hand, between my lips and in my pussy, took on a new dimension.

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