Free How to Make Love to a Woman by Xaviera Hollander

delectable pussy with the panoramic backdrop of her nipple-peaked breasts, but you can also caress her clitoris with your tongue. She can fondle your head and ears, but she cannot reach your cock to trigger a premature ejaculation. Meanwhile, you can thrust against the mattress to increase your own stimulation—or if it gets too exciting—be absolutely still.
    In this way, you should be able to make almost any woman climax before you come yourself. Once she has her orgasm, you can slide your stiff cock into her now-soaking pussy and if you come in five strokes, she will still think you are terrific.
    I have known men who can go all night having round after round of sex, without coming. They make marvelous lovers. I answered one such man whose young bride was complaining that he was too controlling of his orgasms, she was apparently getting too exhausted from the sessions. I told my reader, “As a loyal and patriotic soldier, you no doubt spend a lot of time polishing your weapon, oiling it, stripping it down, and so forth and quite rightly so! These exercises are essential for maximum efficiency in the field of battle. However, it is also important to be prepared when expecting an encounter with the enemy. When your sergeant wakes you in the morning with “Hands off cocks and on with socks!” you should obey and stay off the beat for a few days before your next sexual encounter. A period of abstinence in a healthy young man does no harm, and it may produce a level of horniness that will make you shoot your load at the dinner table, as your wife bends over to check the roast.”

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ENCOURAGE HER

As you introduce variety into your sex life, be sure to give words of encouragement to your partner all along the way. If you want to be a great lover, then you have to provide her with great sex. If you want to provide her with great sex, you have to make it safe for her heart clit and nothing makes it safer than words of encouragement. Don’t know what to say? Here are some that work, things you should feel comfortable and sincere in saying to your lady. And if you don’t, then spend some time and make your own list and practice those words until they roll off your tongue.
    “Damn, you are so extraordinarily beautiful.”
    “I can’t take my eyes or hands off of you, you are so sexy.”
    “Being inside of you is the only place I ever want to be.”
    “You are so hot.”
    “You are so sexy.”
    “I want you. I have to have you.”
    I recently attended a wedding ceremony where the Episcopalian minister gave a most heart-warming talk to the young couple at the altar. He told the young man that there are two things that the young man should try to do every day—and it will make his marriage strong. Those two things were—number one—to make this woman (and he pointed to the bride) feel pretty and desirable and—number two—make her know that you will fight for her, at any time, in any way that life requires, that you will, indeed, fight for her. For the record, he instructed the bride that she has only one job to do and that is to treat him like a man, respect him as a man, and remind him, now and again, that he is a good man. All fodder for the heart clit.

GETTING KINKY

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GETTING STARTED

If you are in a new relationship and don’t know how to suggest to your partner that you want to act out some special fantasy of yours, there are a number of subtle ways to work up to it without coming right out and saying, “Would you let me spank you?” Most women, especially, have difficulty verbalizing their fantasies, so here are some tips for working your way up to it.
    We already talked about the importance of getting her talking. If she has a really hard time discussing it with you, then make her write it down for you. Ask her outright to tell you about her favorite sex dream or masturbation fantasy. Start renting erotic movies and see how the reaction to that goes. Movies are safe and couples who share a movie are