Free Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! by Marie Forleo Page A

of nothing more unattractive than a woman who lies there mentally reviewing her shopping list or looking at cracks on the ceiling while her man is working up a sweat in an effort to please her. Many women give in so he'll stop asking and then lie there during the act like a dead fish. In case you haven't noticed, this approach does not work if you want to be irresistible and have magical, satisfying relationships.
    My suggestion is to practice being naughty and to initiate sex much more frequently. A great way to spice thingsup is to learn how to striptease. Tons of instructional DVDs are on the market, and live classes are offered in major cities. As a dancer and fitness instructor, I thoroughly enjoy teaching the art of strip. Words cannot describe how invigorating it is to watch women let go of their inhibitions right before my eyes and discover the beauty, elegance, and inner sexpot that resides within. Women truly transform through these classes and feel sexier and more confident than they ever thought possible.
    Another great thing to do is to buy beautiful lingerie that makes you look and feel sexy. Get at least one piece that's practical enough to wear under everyday clothes so you can experience a little secret naughty factor all day long.
    Last but not least, get practiced receiving pleasure from a man. You can give him no greater gift than allowing him to sexually satisfy you. Many women are not accustomed to simply allowing themselves to receive. You know what? Get over it! If you want to make every man want you, you're going to have to step out of your comfort zone and allow yourself to feel good—really good—on a consistent basis. And don't use the excuse that he doesn't know how to please you. He's not a mind reader, and every woman's body is different. Tell him, show him, guide him. He, and you, will love you for it.
    The bottom line is this. Being boring in bed is a function of fear: fear of looking stupid, fear of not knowing what to do, fear of being laughed at, or fear of being flat-outrejected. Irresistible women feel the fear and go for great sex anyway. Remember, practice makes perfect!
    Nothing kicks fear in the ass like taking consistent action. When fear-based thoughts come up—and you know they will—say, "Thanks for sharing," and go about being the naughty girl you know you are.
Irresistible Insight Questions
     
     
How often do you check your e-mail or voice mail out of a sense of desperation? How much time are you wasting being needy, in thought or action, that could otherwise be spent enjoying your life?
Do you join in when friends are being catty or critical of other irresistible women? Even if you don't, do you stand by in silence or do you speak up and offer a different possibility? Are you willing to support your friends by opening up the door for their irresistible transformation?
     
     
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Irresistible Action Challenge
     
    Get rid of every single "low self-esteem" item in your wardrobe. You know, those "special" outfits that make you feel dumpy, frumpy, and at least ten pounds heavier the second you put them on. This is a great challenge to do with friends.
    Practice true listening. Notice how often you finish people's sentences (in your head or aloud)—and cut it out. Pretend the person who's speaking has a gem of wisdom to tell you that will profoundly change your life. But in order to receive it, you have to give the person your full attention and allow him or her to speak without interrupting. Assume the person may need to ramble a bit at first in order to get to the really good stuff later.
    Do you let your appearance fall to the back burner? Schedule your manicures, pedicures, facials, and hair appointments for the next six months.
    It's time to get your sexy back. And there's no better way than by having an entertaining naughty buffet. (This can be done alone or with a partner.) Rent adult movies and read an erotic or trashy romance novel. Notice what gets your motor