Free Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! by Marie Forleo

you've got some old anger (real old, like when-you-were-five-and-someone-took-away-your-lollipop old) that is finally getting a chance to come to the surface. If it's appropriate to express yourself and address the situation, do it. If not, simply experience the sensation of anger and get on with your life.
    Here's the good news about being hard and bitter. There's a way to transform it. It's called lightening up. If you have the mistaken idea that life or men have done you wrong, you have cast yourself in the role of victim and need a new part to play. How about this? Try being thestar, the heroine, the leading lady in your life. (Much more appealing, don't you think?) Remember, there are no irresistible victims. You can either be an irresistible babe or a hardened and bitter victim. The choice is yours.
UNATTRACTIVE HABIT 6
Catty and Critical
     
    Many women find it challenging to acknowledge and compliment other irresistible women, especially while in the presence of their man. Insecure women will criticize another woman's clothing, shoes, bag, hair, body, makeup, or success. These catty and critical women mistakenly believe that tearing down another, irresistible woman will somehow be a preemptive strike and prevent their man from finding the other woman desirable. Nothing could be farther from the truth!
    First of all, being critical of another woman casts you in a bad light. You are seen as insecure and jealous. And let's be honest, your man probably noticed her at least ten minutes before you did, so why pretend otherwise?
    Here's the other thing. By bad-mouthing attractive women, you unconsciously program yourself not to become one. The universe is like a big photocopy machine that sends back to you copies of what you "order" through your thoughts. By being catty and critical, your thoughts are sending "attractive is bad" out to the universe, and theuniverse has no choice but to say, "Yes, master! Attractive is
bad
." Because none of us wants to be bad, we will not allow ourselves to become attractive or, heaven forbid, irresistible.
    Here's what to do. When you notice another hot woman, silently bless her and say, "That's right, girl. W-o-r-k!" This will recondition your mind to approve of being attractive, and the universe has no choice but to say, "Yes, master!" and support you in being as foxy as you want to be. Personally, I like to point out attractive women so both my partner and I can enjoy the eye candy. It is fun and supports honesty between us, and the bottom line is that he's coming home with me.
UNATTRACTIVE HABIT 7
Boring in Bed
     
    While no man in his right mind would ever come out and say it, boring sex is a frequent cause of breakups and dead-end relationships. It's not that you have to install a stripper pole in your bedroom or get into hard-core bondage (although either or both could be a lot of fun), but you must investigate your own personal ideas of sexuality and tell yourself the truth about whether or not you hold back in between the sheets. My guess is that on some level, you do. (Let's face it—at times we all do!)
    Sex between two consenting adults is a beautiful and revitalizing event. It is one of the most heavenly experiences on earth and can be an incredible expression of intimacy and aliveness. It's also an excellent way to strengthen your irresistibility muscles.
    Please repeat this with me out loud. "I love sex. I love sex. I love sex."
    Good. Now say this to yourself at least five times a day. Seven more if you were raised Catholic. (Only kidding . . . well, not really.)
    Most of us, whether we realize it or not, have been culturally conditioned to believe sex is bad. Even if we say that we like sex, we've been so deeply steeped in a society that considers sex dirty, shameful, and sinful that we often don't feel comfortable talking frankly about it or taking actions to proactively develop our sexual prowess.
    A subset of boring sex is doing it just to get it over with. I can think