Free Beyond the Power of Your Subconscious Mind by C. James Jensen

good, loving, compulsive punctual fathers do. And, the third time dad totally loses it! It doesn’t take Jimmy very long to “get it.” He develops the compulsive negative pattern that says, “I have to be on time or else __________ _ ” (and filling in the blank is not a very
pleasant picture for a four year old.)
    So here is a clear and realistic example how one develops a negative habit pattern before the age of six and it contains the element of fear. And, you might ask, “So what? How does that affect me as an adult?” Answer: the same way it affected Jimmy’s daddy. He did not act rationally, or sane , when it came to the possibility of being late.
    Omega founder John Boyle did a lot of work with the San Diego police department. He learned that 80% of the auto accidents in San Diego County were caused by people driving too fast because they were “in a hurry” or “running late for an appointment.” Imagine a compulsive punctual on his way to meet his number one customer and thinking that he is going to be late. He will be gripped with illusionary fears that he may lose the customer, and if so, his boss will fire him and his wife will divorce him, etc. He becomes temporarily insane, drives much faster than the speed limit, risks running a red light, and having a terrible accident.
    The affirmation for breaking the compulsive grip on being punctual is, “It is good to be on time, but I don’t have to be on time.”
    We mentioned the other two most common compulsive habit patterns: the compulsive orderly and the compulsive active person. Four year old Mary’s mother is a compulsive “neat-nik.” She is constantly wandering the house looking for anything that looks out of place or undone. God forbid little Mary may forget to make her bed one day or leave her nightie on the floor. (Dad was probably screaming at all the kids to hurry up and get in the car or they were going to be late for school.) Mom fumes all day waiting for Mary to get home from school because this is the third time she didn’t make her bed. You’ve got the picture.
    And, the compulsively active negative habit pattern is created by the parent(s) who just has to be busy doing something all the time. They never just relax or take time out. That household script goes, “Are you just going to sit around the house and watch cartoons all day? Why aren’t you reading those books I bought you? (Dad probably doesn’t know that little four year old Jimmy or Mary haven’t learned to read yet), or practicing your free throws?” And it goes on and on.
    The importance and value of identifying your own negative habit patterns is twofold:

     
    1. To eliminate the compulsive hold they have had on you and develop a sense of sane behavior about whatever it is that you use to be compulsive about; and,
    2. To break the family chain so you don’t pass on the same compulsive
behavioral patterns to your own children, if or when you should have them.

     
    We have now learned a little bit about how our self concept influences our performance, how our self concept is developed, the benefit and value of positive habits, and the obstacles associated with negative habit patterns.
    We are now going to transition into better understanding the conscious and subconscious areas of the mind and how they interact together in determining our choice(s) of action in everything we do. As part of this transition, I would like to share with you an excerpt from an article I read written by Charles T. Tart, Ph.D. In a subsection headed, Who am I—the Beliefs Experience,” Dr. Tart writes:
     
    The many theories or belief systems we have about who we are, such as, “I am a Christian,” or “I am a Buddhist,” or “I am a sinner,” provide yet another perspective. If we hold these theories purely as theories —if we say, “I have a certain set of beliefs, and I don’t know if they’re really true, but I act on them sometimes”— life wouldn’t be so bad. The