Free Weapons of Mass Seduction by Lori Bryant-Woolridge

room. “Now open your eyes, turn to the person next to you, and smile. Again, big and genuine. What happens?”
    â€œThey smile back.”
    â€œExactly. Smiling is contagious. And in a flirting situation, we want to infect as many folks as possible. A smile makes you look friendly, confident, and approachable, and it puts the other person at ease. And if he’s feeling at ease, he’s bound to be more receptive and interested in you.
    â€œ SELL TIP : Even when you are flirting via telephone, have a smile on your face. The other person can feel and hear the difference in your voice. There is a warmth and friendliness that comes across with a grin.
    â€œ EXERCISE : For the rest of this week, pay constant attention to your facial expression and practice smiling. If you’re waiting in a cashier’s line, smile. When you pass strangers on the street, smile. Smile when you notice a beautiful flower or the clear blue sky. Make it a habit, and soon you will find yourself not only happier and more persuasive but on the receiving end with greater frequency.
    â€œ EYE SMILE . Your eyes are your most important flirting tool. If you don’t believe me, think of the ancient and yet still highly effective lessons of the Kama Sutra, where prolonged eye contact is a main tenet of this powerful sensual, spiritual approach to lovemaking. Think of belly dancers and their provocative sideways glances as they work the allure of the veil. Think Elizabeth Taylor and Prince—both masters of ocular seduction. Oh, yes, lovelies: The eyes definitely have it!
    â€œIn my younger days, my body wasn’t quite so…so…voluptuous.” Joey laughed, evoking a rush of “You got that right” around the room. “I depended on my body to attract men. And not once did I look into my basic brown eyes and see anything particularly special. That is, until I was nearly thirty and one very sweet gentleman—a master flirt for sure—told me that my eyes were the sexiest part of me. He said he loved the way he felt when I looked at him. His comment enlightened and empowered me. And from that day forward I stopped worrying so much about my body and began cultivating my ‘looks’ and other charming skills.”
    â€œI totally disagree. Men respond to sexy bodies,” Juile argued with a convinced matter-of-factness only experience can bring.
    â€œTrust me, lovelies, your breasts and bottoms will one day surrender to gravity, but when it comes to drawing a man over to your side of the room, a seductive set of eyes and a warm smile will rarely let you down.”
    â€œJulie’s right. It’s the sexy-looking girls who pull the guys across the room and home with them,” Becca complained, getting plenty of support.
    â€œIt’s no secret that men are visual creatures,” Joey countered. “And I will concede that women who are considered more physically attractive do have a head start when it comes to
picking up
men. But let’s be real here, lovelies: It’s not really hard to pick up a man when everything about you is promising sex. You’ve got to know the difference between being sexy and looking and acting sexual.
    â€œFlirting is not teasing. Teasing is used to
proposition sex
. Flirting is used to
entice interest
. And eye contact is a big part of getting and keeping his attention.
    â€œAnd once you have it, use eye contact as your barometer of his interest. There is more direct gazing when people like each other and less eye contact when they don’t. And should you lose eye contact, chalk it up to his loss, not yours, and move on.”
    â€œBut then you haven’t really succeeded,” Julie goaded.
    â€œWhen you go shopping, does every outfit you try on fit?” Joey asked, calmly making her point.
    â€œHow do you know how long to look? I mean, at what point does a look become a stare?” Rhonda asked.
    â€œTrue, you don’t