notices things a bit too much. Heâs too sensitive. I tell him this all the time when heâs sad after a fight with my mom. I tell him to chill and have a cigarette. Itâs a joke because once he caught me smoking and instead of scolding me, he started laughing and then we both laughed and laughed and laughed and I fell over and that made us laugh even more and finally when we stopped laughing he didnât say anything to me about smoking and instead we both promised not to tell my mother.
Sometimes I have a fantasy about my mother not being there. Maybe going to visit Sammy for a long, long time. And it will be just my dad and me.
Today I did something stupid at school but I donât care. We have this thing where every week we go do stuff for the poor. Itâs really boring and stupid because I always go to the Soup Kitchen with the rest of my gang because it is run by Lailaâs mother. But thereâs never anyone there at the Soup Kitchen at the time that we go because thatâs a super busy time for beggars. TodayâI donât know what came over meâI went to St. Johnâs Church instead where they also give food but itâs to street kids. And the kids were actually there.
I mean they were disgusting and dirty and super rude but at least they were there. It was super tiring because we had to serve them food and then give them these tiny bars of soap and make them go take showers and stuff.
When I came back to school, everyone was giving me weird looks and Maya made a face as if I smelled. So I was like, how was Gossip at the Soup Kitchen today? But no one laughed.
At that moment, I didnât care. I just went and played tennis and beat everyone I was so mad.
But now Iâm home and Iâm tired and Iâve eaten dinner and itâs 10 pm and no one has called me all evening. Thatâs like never happened.
But why canât I go to St. Johnâs? Why does everyone have to be together all the time? I mean is our group so fragile that if someone does something different then itâs all over?
See this is why I feel like growing up is so dangerous. I never used to think this kind of stuff before. Now I feel like everything is stupid and everyone is stupid. This is the kind of thinking I donât want to do. Itâs dangerous.
My dad once told me that growing up feels like shedding your skin and growing new skin. Well, I like my old skin a lot. It took a lot of hard work to grow it and I donât want anything else. Iâm scared Iâm going to become a Communist like my parents used to be. They used to like sing songs on the streets and be against everyone. I donât want to be like that. Itâs hot and sweaty and you canât look cute doing it.
Besides if youâre against everything then who runs things? Where does the money come from?
Do you sometimes feel like youâre shedding your skin? I think Iâm going to pray tonight and ask God if I can keep mine. And maybe see if he can send my mom on a holiday.
Love,
Tania
February 1, 1992
Karachi
Dear Tania,
You wonât believe what just happened. Just as I was going to sit down to write to you, there was a huge crash in the kitchen. When I went to see what it was, I found Bibi pinned to the floor by a huge steel cupboard that had fallen down on her. Chhoti Bibi was standing there, arms folded across her chest, looking mutinous.
I helped Bibi up and she cursed away in Punjabi involving all manners of animals in interesting combinations with Chhoti Bibiâs ancestors and my ancestors even though I had done nothing but try to help her.
As soon as Bibi was free of the cupboard, she sprung up and slapped Chhoti Bibi hard across the face. Once, twice, thrice. Before I could move. Chhoti Bibi just stood there looking straight at Bibi. She didnât try to defend herself and she didnât try to stop Bibi. The slaps were hard and her cheek was already swelling up but there