Free Being a Boy by James Dawson

taught you, pounding away like a steam engine on speed is NOT the way forward . Start SLOW to allow your partner to get used to the alien appendage currently poking about inside her.
    Vaginal sex shouldn’t HURT, but it may be uncomfortable the first few times a girl has sex. Be aware of this to make her and your early sexual experiences positive ones, unless of course, you actively enjoy girls referring to you as ‘dickhead’. Also, if she doesn’t have an orgasm when you’re having vaginal sex, that’s fine. If that’s the case, try some of the other things that feel nice, like oral or digital sex, to help stimulate her instead. It’s worth noting that additional lubricant – which you can buy from any chemist – will reduce friction during sex. Just make sure you get a water-based lube as oil based lubes (such as Vaseline) can split condoms.
    If any of your spooge ends up in her vagina, or even near her vagina, it is possible you will make a baby. Don’t believe ANY old wives tales about certain positions preventing you from getting pregnant. It is even possible for a girl to get pregnant when she has her period. So make sure you wear a condom.
    ANAL SEX (AKA BAN THIS SICK FILTH): Even though there may be brigades of angry Internet people carrying flaming torches, it’s important we talk about this however controversial it seems.
    You don’t have to look very far to find anal sex in porn. I’m talking straight porn here – we’ll talk about gay men in a while. There is so much anal sex in straight porn that you’d think it was the most common thing in the world. However, a 2012 US study found only 44 per cent of straight men had anal sex at least once in their lives, while 36 per cent of women reported the same. That’s less than half, you guys. It is also worth noting that not all men that have sex with men like anal sex.
    Anyway, anal sex is inserting your penis into your partner’s butt.
TWO THINGS:
Anal sex hurts the bum.
If you have anal sex, don’t be surprised if you get poo on your winky.
    If you want to have anal sex you will need some lubricant, or lube, because the anus does not lubricate itself. You cannot make a baby via anal sex, but as the anal passage is particularly delicate there is a heightened risk of contracting STIs through this type of sex.
    In order to minimise the ‘poo-on-your-winky’ situation, some people prepare by cleaning their anus thoroughly or ‘douching’ – squirting water into their back passage.
    Although I made that sound like quite hard work, a lot of people really enjoy anal sex. There’s only one way to find out if your partner does … ASK!
    I’m not sure I said the word anal enough. SO ANAL .
SILENCE IS GOLDEN?
    Another spanner to throw in the works: What should one say during sex? Silent sex is notoriously creepy. No wants to hear passing traffic at the height of passion, but screaming, ‘OOOH YEAH, OH YEAH BABY, JUST LIKE THAT, SAY MY NAME,’ belongs firmly in the domain of porn stars and erotic novels.
    So what’s a boy to do? Encouragement is always good. Let your partner know what they’re doing well and they’ll do more of it – a positive sexual feedback loop if you will. This can be conveyed with well-timed groaning or a quick ‘that’s amazing’. If you want to groan, go on, but be aware of the poor neighbours.
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    The dirty talk dilemma: a bit of filthy chat CAN be a turn on, but ONLY if both partners are into it.
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DOING SAME-SEX SEX
    Most young people are fascinated with the idea of same-sex sex – both men and women. I imagine this is because no one really talks about it because ‘it’s rude’. (FYI, it’s not.)
    Here are the basics for two men and two women. Note I didn’t say ‘gay’ – remember you don’t have to identify as gay to have sex with someone who is the same gender as you.
    MAN ON MAN: Two men can do lots of things that FEEL NICE. Don’t forget the ears, lips, neck and so on during foreplay. Oral