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stimulation of the urethral sponge is likened to an actual ejaculation. It is a perfectly normal bodily response that may
happen every time a woman experiences great sexual arousal and/or sex- ual climax (especially G-spot orgasm), some of the time, or never.
     

Because of its respected role in female ejaculation, tantric practitioners refer to the G-spot as the Sacred Gate.
     
     
Every woman has the potential to ejaculate. Some women and their partners know it happens, others mistake it for urination, while still oth- ers remain completely uninformed about the phenomenon. The amount of fluid ejaculated may range from a few drops to as much as 1½ cups and is determined by various factors, such as a woman’s comfort in ejaculat- ing, where she is in her menstrual cycle, the type and amount of stimula- tion she’s receiving, and the strength of her pelvic-floor muscles. As de- scribed in Deborah Sundahl’s Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot, female ejaculate may be salty or light and earthy in smell and taste, or have a faint smell and taste of urine, or be entirely scentless and tasteless.
Part of the reason why female ejaculation was considered so undesir- able in earlier modern times was due to the great debate over what the fluid is and where it comes from. While a woman may accidentally expel urine when pushing during sex, for many this is not the case. Many, like researchers Belzer, Whipple, Moser, Zaviacic, and Cabello-Santamaria, believe that it is a prostatic fluid (like that released from the male’s pros- tate) that contains glucose, fructose, prostate-specific antigen, and the pri- mary markers of urine (very low levels of creatinine and urea), and that it is expelled into the urethral canal by the forty or so glands and ducts of the female prostate. One more recent study by Dr. Gary Schubach involving seven women found that the 50–900 ml. of fluid expelled unquestionably came from their bladders, despite the fact that they had been drained prior to sexual arousal. When analyzed, the fluid was found to be a greatly re- duced concentration of two primary components in urine, urea and crea- tinine, in many ways complementing previous research. The possible presence of a milky-white fluid from the urethral glands and ducts was ob- served as well. Researchers concluded that the fluid came from a combina- tion of residual moisture in the walls of the bladder and from postdrain-
age kidney output, as well as possibly an emission of the urethral glands and ducts.
Many people consider female ejaculation highly arousing, regardless of the fluid’s makeup or source. Part of being okay with the phenomenon involves normalizing it, becoming more educated about it, and under- standing that it is a perfectly natural reaction to sexual excitement. Talk- ing to your partner can help to diffuse some of the embarrassment and ignorance surrounding the issue—such as may arise, for example, from thinking she’s just lost the contents of her bladder—and can show that you’re sexually empowered and confident. Furthermore, explaining that it’s a reaction to how aroused you are will make it a form of flattery more
than anything else. �
Whether or not your (or your lover’s) G-spot is sensitive, your A-spot as- sists in lubrication, or you’re a female ejaculator, what’s important to take away from this chapter is that every woman is unique. Every woman will react differently to various kinds of stimulation of her internal hot spots and will also react differently from one time to the next. As you explore the full potential of the G-spot and the A-spot, don’t put pressure on yourself or your lover to react in a certain way. Your body will do what it’s meant to do naturally, and being able to embrace that reality will make sex play much more pleasurable for both of you.
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Her Undiscovered, Make-Me-Moan Spots
     
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he clitoris, mons pubis, inner lips, outer lips, urethral opening, and vaginal opening