Free Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation by Diana Richardson

Lover
I’ve begun to notice the ability of my penis to stay erect without my being aroused. Previously erectness was inextricably connected with arousal. I happen to see a sexy woman, and poing—my penis gets stiff. My wife touches my penis—poing. But now the poing happens without any arousal, but only if we are inside of each other and I am present, focused, and relaxed. There are two factors that make it extra easy: If my lover is also present and if I am deeply in her vagina. Most of those times I feel a strong energy flow within myself and between us. Everything around us becomes unimportant, and I am one with myself and my lover. I feel held, loved, and simply at home in myself and in everything that is.

 
     
Tantric Inspiration
Remain with the beginning; do not move to the end. How to remain in the beginning? Many things are to be remembered. First, don’t take the sex act as a way of going anywhere. Don’t take it as a means: it is the end in itself. There is no end to it; it is not a means. Secondly, do not think of the future; remain with the present. And if you cannot remain in the present in the beginning part of the sex act, then you can never remain in the present—because the very nature of the act is such that you are thrown into the present.
Remain in the present. Enjoy the meeting of two bodies, two souls, and merge into each other, melt into each other. Forget that you are going anywhere. Remain in the moment going nowhere, and melt. Warmth, love, should be made a situation for two persons to melt into each other. That is why, if there is no love, the sex act is a hurried act. You are using the other; the other is just a means. And the other is using you. You are exploiting each other, not merging into each other. With love you can merge. This merging in the beginning will give you many new insights.
If you are not in a hurry to finish the act, the act, by and by, becomes less and less sexual and more and more spiritual. Sex organs also melt into each other. A deep silent communion happens between two body energies, and then you can remain for hours together. This togetherness moves deeper and deeper as time passes. But don’t think. Remain with the moment deeply merged. It becomes an ecstasy, a samadhi, cosmic consciousness. And if you can know this, if you can feel and realize this, your sexual mind will become nonsexual.
OSHO, TRANSCRIBED TEACHINGS,
VIGYAN BHAIRAV TANTRA

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    AWARENESS, MOVEMENT, PENETRATION, AND ERECTION

     
     
    AWARENESS
    The expression “It’s not what you do, but how you do it” is more deeply understood through these simple yet profound words of Osho: “Tantra is the transformation of sex into love through awareness.” These few words encapsulate the essence of tantra, which is about awareness—nothing more, nothing less. If we are aware and conscious during sex, sex transforms into love. Awareness changes the whole quality of sex, and the fragrance and climate of love is naturally generated through awareness. Woman’s heart and body respond vibrantly to man rooted in the present through his awareness.
    Staying Present within the Body
    The elusive present moment is created through bringing awareness to the body, holding the attention in the body, millisecond by millisecond. Being aware of body position, movements, and breath and relaxing habitual tensions are basic tools to accessing and staying in the present. The body always exists in the present; it is the mind that roams around in past and future thoughts. Before a man can understand how to remain present while making love with a woman, he must first establish a relationship with his own body. He can literally embody his own body by taking his attention inside the body and away from thoughts and fantasies. As one retreat participant a few years ago reported, “It’s incredible, I am a fifty-four-year-old man, and nobody has ever told me to feel inside my body. And it is paradise in there!”
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