Free More than Just Sex by Ali Campbell

Would you notice if your favourite drink went up in price at your local? If you were driving along the motorway would you notice a new Ferrari three cars back in your rear-view mirror? Yes, yes and yes. Of course you would. So now it’s time to use those same skills where it counts – with women. You need to notice what signals they’re giving you every day. OK, they might not come from Maranello or even all be as shapely but trust me, this ride is just as much fun when you perfect this for yourself.
    I need you to really pay attention now. No, not to me, to them: to whoever you are near right now. I’m going to teach you to be a super-sleuth of sex signals by turning your sensory acuity all the way up. You’re going to like this, because only 7% of all communication is in the actualwords we use. The rest (93% for the hard of counting) is in the other stuff: the tone and expression, body language and non-verbal cues that your brain is taking in all the time, even though you’re not directly paying attention to them.

    I read recently that car manufacturers are finding that it’s cheaper for them to make their cars with all the optional extras programmed in and then turn off the electronics for the bits for which you haven’t paid. Your brain is a lot like that. All the information is there, but only some of it is being processed.
    In years to come, I am sure there is going to be a black market in unlocking car ‘brains’, just as there has been with mobile phones, but for now it is time to unlock your brain so you can see what’s been there all along and then be able to do something about it.
    Homework
    OK sex sleuth, I want you to ensconce yourself on the sofa with the TV remote (I think you’ll like this homework) and flick through the channels until you find someone being interviewed. It can be as highbrow or lowbrow as you like – that’s not what’s important here. The only thing that is important is that you can clearly see them, and particularly their face. If you are feeling brave or are reading this in public somewhere find a woman near you instead, and preferably one in conversation, who doesn’t know that you’re paying attention to her. You are NOT trying to pick her up, but I want you to really notice her.
    Look at her from head to toe (subtly! I’m not coming to bail you out for public weirdness). What is she doing with her arms? Are her legs crossed? Is she animated or subdued? When she talks, thinks and listens, what does she do with her head and her eyes? You can learn so much about someone just by how they use their eyes, but even noticing that they are doing ‘things’ is a start. Knowing that these ‘things’ that they do have meaning is the next step. Then all you have to do is remember what the meanings are.
    Obviously, there is the dewy-eyed, puppy-dog ‘take me to bed or lose me forever’ look, but honestly, if you can’t pick up on that, then this book is way too advanced for the likes of you. I say notice how they ‘use’ their eyes, because from now on I want you to think of the eyes as being like the cursor on your computer screen. If you want to access a file, you must hover the pointer over the icon and click. You can’t access what’s inside any other way.
    Now, if you are anything like me, your desktop is probably a right old mess, with folders and files all over the place. Fortunately our brains (yes, even yours, and a woman’s) are much more organized. Probably because this is all at a subconscious level, and so our conscious minds haven’t had the chance to mess it up.
    All our picture files are stored in one area, our sound files are stored in another, our feelings in a third, and we even have a place to go to talk to ourselves in our heads and another to access our feelings. So as you watch your case study, just notice that she is moving her head and her eyes around, but perhaps for the first time realize that everyone does this. It is not an accident, and how