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who also didn’t know how. I was surprised to find that I wasn’t frigid and that I was quite good at it.
    Anywhere from 10 to 30 percent of the women in our audiences say they didn’t masturbate as kids because they had no idea how to do it. Between 80 and 90 percent say they were told nothing about masturbation when they were growing up. Some figure things out on their own, or with the help of a friend, big sister, or book. Others reach young adulthood before they learn how to do it.
    How do women do it? A lot of different ways! A woman might:
○Touch, rub, or stroke her clitoris, especially the shaft (see diagram on page 70), using one or two fingers. This is the most common way women masturbate.
○Use a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris (more on this in chapter 7 ).
○Touch, rub, stroke, or massage other parts of her genitals, like her labia, urethra, or anus.
○Use water to stimulate her clit: a handheld showerhead or the jet of water from a Jacuzzi or bathtub faucet.
○O Squeeze her thighs together.
○Insert a finger or fingers, sex toy, or another object in her vagina. O Caress, massage, or squeeze her breasts and/or nipples.
○Build up muscular tension by tightening muscles all over her body.
○Rub her clitoris against something, like a pillow, pile of covers, or piece of furniture.
○Fantasize by thinking about a story that turns her on, or imagining an image or memory that’s sexy to her.
    Of course, women also mix and match, using different approaches in one self-lovin’ session, or playing different ways on different days. And some choose not to masturbate at all, which is okay, too.
I still don’t really masturbate — I’ve never gotten the hang of it. I do remember discovering that I could touch myself and that it felt good, but I’ve never been good at actually turning myself on or giving myself an orgasm.
I never took a negative stance toward masturbation because my mother encouraged exploration of one’s body, as long as it was behind closed doors. However, I also never took advantage of masturbation; it was simply something I wasn’t interested in.
    Why is it so hard to find complete, illustrated, step-by-step “How To Masturbate” instructions for women? Mostly because there are so many different ways. A technique that makes one woman’s toes curl with ecstasy is likely to leave the next one limp with boredom. Sex researcher Shere Hite collected 3,000 women’s answers to her in-depth sex questionnaire, and women’s detailed descriptions of exactly how they get themselves off fill thirty-four fascinating pages of The Hite Report. If you’re a woman who’s never had an orgasm and you’re looking for tips, check out the next chapter.
The more educated a woman is, the more likely she is to masturbate.
    changing your self-love technique
    SOMETIMES WE HEAR from women who feel limited by their own masturbation technique. For instance, perhaps a woman first orgasmed by lying in bed on her belly, squeezing her thigh muscles tight and pressing against her mattress. That technique may have worked fine when she was eleven, but as an adult she might find it limits her ability to have orgasms from other kinds of stimulation. If she wants to be able to come from oral sex, or have an orgasm by rubbing her clit while she’s having intercourse, the lying-on-your-belly-thigh-squeezing technique may present some challenges.
    Good news: It’s often possible for women to learn to masturbate and have orgasms in new ways. The process can be a little frustrating, because you basically have to teach your body that it can respond to other kinds of stimulation—even when you know full well you could get off fast and easily your old way.
I couldn’t get myself off with my hands for years, only with a vibrator. I finally taught myself when I was eighteen, and in the beginning it took a long time to orgasm. It was so frustrating and sometimes I’d quit before I came. Now I can get myself off with my hands