Free Dear Lover by David Deida Page A

if I am only able to feel your tense body, then your company feels more like stress that I have to deal with. Although I am committed to opening you as deeply as I can with my love even when you are closed, the depth of my passionate desire for you is invited by the fullness of your yearning, which you show, moment by moment, through the trusting surrender of your body’s openness to love.
    If you don’t have a man in your life who claims your heart with his love and opens you to God, you are probably not fully offering your heart to be claimed while opening your body to flow with love’s bliss—right now. You always attract and inspire a man as deeply committed to opening in love as you are—right now—which means that a man will be as actively present with you as you are actively radiating your love and allowing your yearning to open in his company and when you are alone.
    Right now, how fully is your heart yearning open? How deeply do you want your heart’s longing to be met? How actively are you allowing love’s yearning to open through your feet, your thighs, your neck? Are your heart and belly as open now as if you were making love with a trusted lover while breathing the hearts of all beings? Probably not. Most likely, your heart is less than devotionally surrendered and your body is less than overflowing with love’s yearning pleasure. Therefore, you will attract a man who is less present than your heart truly desires.
    Deep in your heart, you probably want to be with a man who could be totally present with you when you are together, as if he were making love with you, even at the dinner table or while taking a walk. To attract such a man, to evoke his fullness, you must be offering yours. His presence and the offering of your heart’s yearning go together; he drifts when you close down, you close down when he drifts. He wants to claim you when you trust him with your worship of his consciousness. And you open, offering your yearning and surrender to him, when you feel his deep claim and worship of your heart.
    If you are not currently in relationship with such a man, feel yourself: Right now, are you opening and breathing the love that flows at the heartof all beings, feeling their suffering and their joy? Are you actively opening, breathing, and receiving this moment’s force of love into your body and heart—as if you were taking your lover deep inside, offering him your most vulnerable yearning of feminine devotion and the untamed gifts of your energy?
    If you are offering your heart’s deepest yearning, then you will attract and inspire a man’s deepest presence, right now. If your heart’s surrender is cautious and your body’s flow of energy is minimal, then you will, in this moment, attract and inspire a man whose presence is easily distracted and whose heart is uncalled to feel you deeply.
    How do you open now? Start by breathing deeply, filling your belly pregnant with breath-force while you inhale, then exhaling and releasing all hold of tension. Breathe deeply in and out through every part of your body. Breathe in and out of your feet so your toes wiggle and you continue breathing open every part of your body: your legs come alive, your vagina softens and moistens, your belly grows round and full with pleasure, your heart opens and feels, your arms and hands and fingers unfold as sprouts of your heart, your throat softens and your neck elongates, your face and lips and eyes and head all relax open. Breathe fully and relax your entire body open, from toe to head.
    Then, as you breathe, feel outward from your heart. If you have a lover, then breathe him—his shape, his joy, his suffering—in and out of your heart. If you have children, then breathe them and all your friends in and out of your heart. Open your heart to feel your community and eventually the entire world, breathing all—people, animals, plants, ocean, forest, even the night’s darkness—in and out of your heart. Allow your